Help me make sense of things. The only way to put it is Dh is being a complete butt. Some examples of his butt like behavior are these: today I took the boys to the library. Dh decided he didn't want to go. He was going to stay home with our 2 year old during naptime. I came into the livingroom where he was vegged out on the couch looking up hat designs. I came in to let him know we were leaving. He looks up and says, "you're in here bugging me you must want me to do something so what the help do you want." I said nothing and walked out the door. I was gone 2 hours and when I got back at 4:30pm he was still sitting on the couch doing nothing. I asked where Aiden was and he said still sleeping. I told him he was only supposed to sleep til at the latest 4pm. He just looked at me and said is it that late already. I said dude you haven't done nothing but sit on the couch was I asking too much of you. He just rolled his eyes. Thursday was a busy day for me. I had to take my W year old to the doctor, the hospital for xrays , back to the doctors, pick up my 5 year old from school, take him to behavior therapist, take him to piano, pick up 2 year olds meds, head home where I make dinner, give boys a bath and get them ready for bed. Dh came home and was acting like he had a long day. He worked from 6am to 1pm then met up with a buddy for lunch and to go over blueprints. He spent the rest of the day at the shooting range. Didn't get home until 7pm. His words were, "boy am I beat. Tough having a sick kid. Hopefully he gets feeling better soon." I was thinking to myself you didn't do anything regarding our sick kid. You went to lunch and the shooting range. What a tough day. He went in to take a shower and put pj's on. He didn't come out of the bedroom because he fell asleep watching a baseball game. I had his dinner heated up in the microwave but he never came to eat it. These are just some of the things I have been dealing with. Everytime I'm in the same room with him I can feel the tention. I feel like he's a ticking time bomb that could explode emotionally at any minute. He knit picks the kids and if I don't agree with him he goes postal. Acusses me of never supporting him and being negative toward him. Like tonight he showed me a picture of a house he painted. I said I didn't like the color and he flipped out telling me would it kill you to give me a compliment. I know everything I do is crap. I told him to chill. I didn't say anything about the way it was painted. I like the paint job just not the color. He said oh sure way to cover it up. I can't live with someone like this. It's been getting worse as time goes on. I've tried to talk to him but he just doesn't want to hear it. What should I do? Help!
on Oct. 7, 2012 at 12:36 AM