Bf denied telling me he rethought our relationship..why

[didyouthink76]

Bf of 2+ years told me the other day that he rethought our relationship twice lately. When I asked him anout It a couple days later, he denied it. Why???

[Bradya]

was he drunk

[Aamy]

Sorry, batteries in the crystal ball are dead. You will need to ask him why. 

[ColorMeCrazy]

Gaslighting? Trying to get out of the work that comes with fixing a relationship?

[didyouthink76]

Quoting ColorMeCrazy:

Gaslighting? Trying to get out of the work that comes with fixing a relationship?

I asked him if he still felt that way and why he felt that....he denied it. So how can I fix

[ReadWriteLuv]

How can you fix this???? What did you do wrong? NOTHING!

Quoting didyouthink76:

Quoting ColorMeCrazy:

Gaslighting? Trying to get out of the work that comes with fixing a relationship?

I asked him if he still felt that way and why he felt that....he denied it. So how can I fix

[ColorMeCrazy]

You'll have to stand firm and stick to your guns. Tell him that he said it, you heard him say it, and you will not be gaslighted. If he continues to deny it I would suggest a break, obviously he has some issues right now.

This is the definition of gaslighting: Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented with the intent of making a victim doubt his or her own memory, perception and sanity. It may simply be the denial by an abuser that previous incidents ever occurred, or it could be the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.

Quoting didyouthink76:

Quoting ColorMeCrazy:

Gaslighting? Trying to get out of the work that comes with fixing a relationship?

I asked him if he still felt that way and why he felt that....he denied it. So how can I fix

[raegan1221]

 I wouldn't worry about it...I mean if he's lying yeah but I think you're over thinking it...we girls tend to do that..I know that I do. I wouldn't worry unless there are some significant things that look bad for your relationship..signs, red flags, you know. I think everyone from time to time has a bad day, gets frustrated.

[TommyAbby]

Probably because a few days ago you blew up at him to the point you said you didn't want to be with him?? Why would he want a repeat of this.. AGAIN

[timswife_momof2]

counseling??

[didyouthink76]

Quoting raegan1221:

 I wouldn't worry about it...I mean if he's lying yeah but I think you're over thinking it...we girls tend to do that..I know that I do. I wouldn't worry unless there are some significant things that look bad for your relationship..signs, red flags, you know. I think everyone from time to time has a bad day, gets frustrated.

He is lying. He said it.