Okay so it's like this...SO & I don't live together yet. I was up about 9:15 reorganizing my closet & putting clothes away when I called him to say goodnight...We made it a routine where we always call at 9 to say goodnight because that's when we both go to sleep. I told him I would be going to sleep soon after I finish my closet & putting my clothes away. After we hung up, I started moving elsewhere in my room, picking up, cleaning my room. At 10:45 I finally lay down & I get a Facebook notification from my cousin, he's a guy, he commented on a pic of me that my SO posted on my profile. I responded back to his comment & about 1 min. later my SO texts asking if I'm still up. He got the notifcation from Facebook too after I responded back to my cousin. I explain to him that I ended cleaning the rest of my room. He said I must lie to him alot...he's talking about me saying I'll be going to sleep soon after I'm done with my closet & I didn't. That's all he text lastnight.
So this morning I text him saying good morning & asked if he was still upset. He texted back saying "I'm not upset. Can't change how you present yourself. O well, gonna make it not bother me anymore." And that was it.
Does this make me a liar!? Is this really a big deal because to him it is & I just don't see it. What should I do? It bothers me that he thinks I'm a liar.
Yeah...I myself do not get it. But he relates everything to cheating...like I've been on this no carb diet & the other day I wanted just one bite of a piece of cake...I tell him it's just one little bite & he says "well what if some guy wants a kiss, are you going to give him just one little kiss?" I don't think every situation can relate to cheating.
Quoting myboysx2:
Ugh, that stinks... I guess you really need to talk to him and explain to him that you didn't lie to him, you just got carried away with cleaning. Its kinda silly he got so upset. Maybe he's been lied to in the past... idk.
Sorry I hope everything works out.
I do not think he should have gotten upset or accused you of possibly cheating in the future just because you stayed up later than usual on one occasion. It sounds like he may be insecure from a past relationship where he carried over distrust into your relationship. I would just explain to him that you did not lie, nor would you ever do anything to hurt him intentionally, but also that you don't deserve him to treat you that way when you technically did nothing wrong!
Um...he sounds like a controlling prick. Is that really the kind of relationship you want to have?
I know this can make him come off as controlling but he's really not that type of person. He's the most sweetest, compassionate, caring man that I have ever met. I love him very much & hold high respect for him. He takes care of me & our kids. He's also very responsible...I do think that his reaction can be stemming from a past experience.
Quoting rockinmomto2:
Um...he sounds like a controlling prick. Is that really the kind of relationship you want to have?
not sure why it is bothering me but
- VidaLove
on Oct. 8, 2012 at 11:32 AM