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hey ladies,
So please tell me if I'm wrong, or what your advice is. My boyfriend and I live together with our 2 kids. He's an okay dad, and an okay boyfriend most of the time, not as great as I wish. We had gotten into an argument last night because he likes to call me a b!t(h and I confronted him about that. I also confronted him about how he waste so much gas, and how we only use my money for bills and everything, and how he only uses his for his stuff and doesn't help out financially. Also he is a temp jumping from job to job, but he LOVES to take long breaks after an assignment ends. Even though he knows we can't afford that. He starts yelling and calls me an even bigger b!t(h and tells me I talk too much $h!t, and that we waste money so much because I'm a fat @$$ and we spend it on my food. He likes to go out to eat as much as I do or more. He talks about how horrible I am, and how he'd be okay without me. I'm getting really tired of being hurt all the time. Have I dealt with enough? Is it time to say goodbye and not look back, or keep trying? Advice please
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by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 2:10 PM
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Sobermom524
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 4:36 PM
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People treat you the way you allow them to. Until you start believing you deserve better and demand better it doesn't matter weather it's him or some other man you will continue to pick the same type over and over. The real problem isn't him, it's you, work on you.
ShannaBee
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 5:42 PM
This.


Quoting IQuitCounting:

If there is no desire to change and grow as a couple it might be time to cut him loose.  Myself?  I wouldn't put up with being treated that way.  You are only so good as you allow others to treat you so if you feel you deserve better, get the hell out of dodge.

See if you can have a serious talk with him, without the kids around, about how you'd like to work on making the relationship stronger.  If he blows up or starts to put you down, call you names, threaten to leave himself... then you'll know he's not willing to work at it and it's time to move on.  Put together a plan and act on it.


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Gmgej
by Michele on Oct. 9, 2012 at 6:50 PM

Reread what you wrote and you should find you answer in black and white.

Celtic_Dragon
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:03 PM

You're not married and your heart and mind is already telling you what the answer is.


USMCwife0530
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:09 PM
You think having a great sex life makes up for his total disrespect for her? I don't care how amazing our sex life is, if my DH would treat me the way her bf treats her, I'd kick him to the curb.


Quoting catchup29:

Unless you have an amazing sex life, I'd say you have nothing to stay for. He sounds like he is not ready for a relationship and children.

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catchup29
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:19 PM
Quoting USMCwife0530:




Everyone seems to be hung up on that and taking it much more literal. Maybe I forgot the LOl after it. Basically I'm saying there is no reason to stay
USMCwife0530
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 8:42 PM
Yeah, "LOL" would've been a good idea. ;)


Quoting catchup29:

Quoting USMCwife0530:






Everyone seems to be hung up on that and taking it much more literal. Maybe I forgot the LOl after it. Basically I'm saying there is no reason to stay

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crazycurls920
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 8:45 PM
You already know your answer.
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samanthabecker
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 11:44 AM
If you are doing it all yourself on just your check it's time to tell him to pack his crap and go. You don't deserve to be treated likethat. And he said he'd be fine without you, that right there should have been his walking papers.
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jenandpetersmom
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 12:07 PM

Kick his ass to the curb!

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