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I slept on the couch last night... :(

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I've been sick, running fever all day. DH works ft and goes to school ft, which has him coming home around 9pm M-Th.

I had a busy night despite my 102.5 fever...son had soccer practice, dd had robotics. When DH got home he immediately pecked me on the cheek and said he needed to study. I got whiny and told him i was sick and felt lonely and needed some tlc.

He got upset and said I give him a guilt trip every night saying he doesn't make time for me. Then asks me if i want some tea. I say yes. He never makes it for me. I go to the bedroom and lie down for the 2 hours he is studying after i get the kids in bed

Im upset, feeling sick and neglected until he comes to bed then he acts clueless as to why I seem sad. We then get on the topic of how we dont ever have date time together and he gets upset with mw saying how can i expect him to plan date night when we never have a sitter for his daughter (we have a blended family and i am custodial sm to his dd. .my kids go to their dads every other weekend).

I feel like i do it all and i work full time too. He has a hot meal each day he comes home, i take care of his dd full time with no help...all i ask is one planned date night a month to keep me feeling like a woman.

The final straw was him telling me he's never been with a woman who needed 150% of his attention all the time. Which is so unfair!

So i got up and went to the couch. He gets up 6 hours later and asks why Im on the couch. So clueless!!! Then he goes back to bed.

Sorry to vent so early but Im just so hurt! And being sick doesn't help. :(
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 5:52 AM
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i.heart.myboys
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 8:20 AM


Quoting AnGLInterrupted:

(hugs)  I hope you get to feeling better soon.  You and your DH should sit down one day when he's not busy and you're not feeling yucky and have a heart-to-heart talk.  There has to be a compromise somewhere.  

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Metteba
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 12:25 PM

Awww, Mama. Men are just plain dumbasses - thatz all that can be said.  I hope you feel better soon and get back to normal...and make sure your 200%!!!!!!!! LOL.  Just remember this always, when he catches a cold give him the cold shoulder and make him deal with his daughter when he's not feeling 150%.  And, you turn it back on him and say, "I never been with a man who always needs 155% of my attention...unreal".  Then turn your back on him and walk away and make that unnerving siighh sound....lol. 

timswife_momof2
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 2:32 PM

i couldnt imagine a man not taking care of his sick wife. my husband works full time and i take care of the kids and the household, but when i am sick, he stops everything he is doing and takes care of me, because he knows that i do alot for the family. i can see he is busy but studying could have waited at least until you went to sleep. ima full time student but i take time for my family.

Celtic_Dragon
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 2:44 PM

Get a sitter. Ask grandma and grandpa or another family member to watch the girl. Go do something you guys enjoy.

My husband and I rarely are sick. My husband was sick with food poisoning one time. He was puking and shitting at the same time. I had big messes to clean up because he had no control with either. It was pretty gross, but I had to do it for him. He was too sick to do it himself. He honestly passed out in the bathroom. I couldn't get him to get up so I gave him a pillow and he slept there. It was probably the best place for him to sleep. I didn't want to clean up his mess in the bedroom. :(

If your husband doesn't get what you're trying to tell him, you have to tell him outright. Guys can be that way sometimes. They are not good mind readers all the time.

annasmom1234
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 3:23 PM

feel betterI am sorry you feel so bad!  Hope you get to feeling better soon.

chipperer1ca
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 5:01 PM
Quoting Metteba:

Awww, Mama. Men are just plain dumbasses - thatz all that can be said.  I hope you feel better soon and get back to normal...and make sure your 200%!!!!!!!! LOL.  Just remember this always, when he catches a cold give him the cold shoulder and make him deal with his daughter when he's not feeling 150%.  And, you turn it back on him and say, "I never been with a man who always needs 155% of my attention...unreal".  Then turn your back on him and walk away and make that unnerving siighh sound....lol. 




I had to LOL at this!! He was SICK last week and i babyed him so much! He was grateful for my care! I guess revenge will be mine next time ;) bwahahaha!!
LynBoz
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 5:04 PM
You sound like a whiney 5 year old. Grow up and deal with your life. Be happy you have a husband who works full time and is going to school full time to further his education which in turn will provide more job opportunities and a better life for your family.
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ShannaBee
by Platinum Member on Oct. 10, 2012 at 6:48 PM

I am sorry you are sick and I hope you either are feeling better or get well soon.

Sometimes the way we talk to our husbands can trigger adverse reactions. Try vocabulary such as "I feel like/that/ect" and avoid the words "we never" "you never" "you always". Finding a different way of communicating can sometimes strengthen conversation and more positive results.

Serenity7
by Platinum Member on Oct. 10, 2012 at 10:29 PM

 ((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))

mommyof11050307
by Bronze Member on Oct. 10, 2012 at 11:16 PM

Having a husband that works full time and goes to school full time it sucks. My husband took the semester off and I still don't see him. Hes doing OT every night for the last few months and working every sat he can. I love the pay checks but it sucks him not being home. 

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