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Fiance goes to visit son alone with ex at her house. Me and my daughters and our son are not aloud. When he goes to see him he wont answer his phone or call me. Only text. I mean after he has been there for awhile, when its time to pick him up. He usually takes car himself but if I need the car I drop him off and pick him up. He makes me wait around even if I have important plans such as dropping my daughter off to dads. He knows how upset. the whole thing makes me feel. How me and kids are left out of the picture. I feel awful that I have done a lot for that little boy. Got to know him 4 yrs. He has a baby brother who loves him and cant see him 2 step daughters that miss him. He has leukemia and its been little over month it could be a yr before we see him. I have been very supportive. Just think my Fiance could show some care knowing how his ex is making his son think that none of us are important to him. I feel stupid when he makes me wait in driveway and don't answer his phone. We send our love like buying gifts writing notes. We ask Fiance to let him know what we have to say. But we don't know for sure if he gives him messages. He never says anything back. Fiance don't offer to call us when were not there. Went to pick up Fiance yesterday and he didn't come out, didn't answer his phone, I was late, so I went to the door. He was sitting on the couch with his ex ??? He makes me feel worse instead of better?? think I could also. Use a little support from him. Whats going on?his ex recently got married 2 months ago and he works a lot. Should I be worried? Should I still be supportive? Should I put my foot down? I'm confused.
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 1:28 PM
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bellebear
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 12:18 AM
Quoting MrsBell29:

Here is my question, How long have you been together ?  And was he doing all this BEFORE he found out about his DS ?  


not sure what day means but I think you mean his son? No we use to just have come to our house. He only goes to her place cause his son cant leave. Don't think he is cheating on me with her but was worried that they may be reconnecting and leaving me out of the picture! I find it disrespectful. I feel I should be a part of it. Its been 4 yrs.
3xangel
by Bronze Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 3:58 AM
Was he cheating on you with the ex? If not, everything you just wrote is beyond ridiculous and messed up.

Quoting timswife_momof2:

uh yeh when i first started dating my husband he did this too. he went to his ex house and visited with his daughter and i broke up with him over it and he begged me for 3 months to get back together with him and that he would never go over there again, now we have been married 2 yrs and he doesnt even speak to her. if she has something she needs to say she says it to his mother and his mother tells him. under no circumstances is he allowed to be around her without me.

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ashbrydio
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:35 AM
If my husband had an ex and did that I would have broken both his damn legs along time ago wtf stand up mommy or something could be happening without you knowing.

If he doesn't want to change his ways while he's with you now then u don't need to be with him.
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NDADanceMom
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:45 AM

So his child is dying of cancer and you are worried that he is cheating?  LOL OK lady.  

Your 100% focus should be his child and what that child needs.  They may not want a whole crew around because of germs.  They may not want you around because you have jacked up priorities.... "his baby brother misses him" uhhh the kid is DYING.  Do you know what that means??? DYING.  seriously.  Your biggest concern is where the guy your datinng's penis is.  really?  Id want to leave you too if I were him.  "im visiting my dying child and you are worried about yourself?"

NDADanceMom
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:47 AM

LISTEN TO YOURSELF!!!!  

Are you for real??? The child is dying and you are worried they may bond over their sick kid.  Id dump your ass so fast! 

Quoting bellebear:

Quoting MrsBell29:

Here is my question, How long have you been together ?  And was he doing all this BEFORE he found out about his DS ?  


not sure what day means but I think you mean his son? No we use to just have come to our house. He only goes to her place cause his son cant leave. Don't think he is cheating on me with her but was worried that they may be reconnecting and leaving me out of the picture! I find it disrespectful. I feel I should be a part of it. Its been 4 yrs.


la_bella_vita
by Bella on Oct. 11, 2012 at 9:55 AM

 I have nothing nice to say and I remember your last post.

Exiting post

Good luck to you

3gr8tKids
by Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 10:06 AM
I think ill just keep my mouth shut.
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3gr8tKids
by Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 10:07 AM
1 mom liked this
LOL I saw this after my reply.
We're on the same page.


Quoting la_bella_vita:

 I have nothing nice to say and I remember your last post.


Exiting post


Good luck to you


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timswife_momof2
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 10:57 AM

idk she says he was, he says he wasnt. and she keeps trying to break us up everytime she sees him she hits on him and tells him to leave me. she calls in the middle of the night and asks him to come over all the time. and he has told her to stop but she doesnt. its like she wont stop until we are broke up. so its just better that he not speak with her unless he absolutely has too. and im sorry that that is your opinion but it works for our family, and that is all that is important.

Quoting 3xangel:

Was he cheating on you with the ex? If not, everything you just wrote is beyond ridiculous and messed up.

Quoting timswife_momof2:

uh yeh when i first started dating my husband he did this too. he went to his ex house and visited with his daughter and i broke up with him over it and he begged me for 3 months to get back together with him and that he would never go over there again, now we have been married 2 yrs and he doesnt even speak to her. if she has something she needs to say she says it to his mother and his mother tells him. under no circumstances is he allowed to be around her without me.


timswife_momof2
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 10:59 AM

and also he gets him daughter every weekend, every holiday and every summer. her mom keeps her while she is in school and when she is out of school we get her. so he has no reason to go over there anymore except when he picks her up and even that is a nightmare with her. i dont get why exs just cant be civil. at least for the children.

Quoting timswife_momof2:

idk she says he was, he says he wasnt. and she keeps trying to break us up everytime she sees him she hits on him and tells him to leave me. she calls in the middle of the night and asks him to come over all the time. and he has told her to stop but she doesnt. its like she wont stop until we are broke up. so its just better that he not speak with her unless he absolutely has too. and im sorry that that is your opinion but it works for our family, and that is all that is important.

Quoting 3xangel:

Was he cheating on you with the ex? If not, everything you just wrote is beyond ridiculous and messed up.

Quoting timswife_momof2:

uh yeh when i first started dating my husband he did this too. he went to his ex house and visited with his daughter and i broke up with him over it and he begged me for 3 months to get back together with him and that he would never go over there again, now we have been married 2 yrs and he doesnt even speak to her. if she has something she needs to say she says it to his mother and his mother tells him. under no circumstances is he allowed to be around her without me.

 


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