So my bf and I had an arguement last night... It only lasted for about 5 mins. What gets me is that every time we argue he threatens to make me leave... I cant understand if someone loves you and wants to be with u then why would they tell u to leave???? After he cools down he says he doesnt mean it but I piss him off... He gets angry very easliy. I find his job to be the problem. He works in a prison so he is mean all day to these guys and he doesnt change when he is home. Anyone have any advice on this? Also.. We dont have any kids together, I have 2 daughters from a previous relationship. But we are tryin to have a baby.
Quoting MIMI2700:
I'd say okay and I would find an apartment the next and move out. Problem solved! Better to do it now than after you have a baby with him. I assume your girls aren't affected by the statement?
They didnt hear him say it this time but they have heard him in the past.
And why are you trying to have a baby with him?????
My dad worked in a prison. Yeah, he was a total prick all those years. After retirement your boyfriend will probably chill out. My dad treated us like prisoners, I mean we didn't listen or anything, but he tried.
IDK, I wouldn't be trying to have his kid. I'd want to be married first.
You need to have a talk with him about saying out of the way things when he is mad and just because he works at a prison it isn't an excuse to act the same at home as he does at work. We all do it from time to time, but he needs to learn to seperate work and home and just because you are mad that doesn't give anyone in any relationship the reason to yell, cuss, hurt or threaten someone. Even if they are empty threats, they can hurt a relationship. No matter how man my husband and I might get during a fight we would never say things like that because it's not ok! Have a heart to heart with him or tell him next time he threatens you, that you WILL leave and see how he likes it.
why are you trying to have a child with him? have you talked about getting some sort of counseling BEFORE a child, to get his anger under control? he needs to learn the difference between work and home. honestly, if he thinks you "piss him off" now, what does he think is going to happen when pregnancy hormones are raging?
Sit him down and tell him that when the two of you fight, the things he says hurts. Nobody should say anything out of anger because you live to regret it. He needs to learn techniques to calm down. He needs to learn to leave his job once his feet hit the threshold.
What's so bad about porn anyway?
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- mommieofII
on Oct. 11, 2012 at 12:38 PM