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I feel stupid for posting, thinking or even talking about this but… (little bit more info)

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• Do not comment if you are going to be rude, judgmental, bitchy, or in anyway shape or form an asshole about the situation, me or my DH. 



• No I do not have family to turn to about this

• No I do not have any friends to turn to 



• This is the only place I can go to vent, rant, rave and express how I feel.

• Here is the only place I can freely express with out being scared of anything. 



So… today is my 10-11-12 birthday! My DH has told me about a million time happy birthday because he feels bad about not being able to be here. Well we had a plan to go out to celebrate on the 20th but like every year something else happens to put a stop to that. (I have never had a birthday party or even celebrated my birthday EVER) DH and I have been together for 3yrs the 1st yr I was pregnant, the 2nd year he was at work, this year well this one pisses me off the most… he will forget because on 10-10-10 my DHs ex fiancés 19yr old son killed himself.  Now she is coming here that weekend and well yet again I am nothin to anyone. I don't mean to be selfish or sound selfish after 18 year (I'm only 25) I should be use to everyone forgetting my birthday by now but I'm not every year I'm hurt that no one remembers. And it does not help that my DHs aunt turned 48 today either. 



I don't know I guess it's just my pitty party and I know it's selfish but this is the first time I have her said anything about how I feel when it comes to this. Usually I just keep my mouth shut and go on with my day as though nothing even happened. I feel stupid for even talking about it or even caring after all these years I guess. 



Oh and my DH has been saying happy birthday to me all day a million times because he feels bad for not being here this year either he said. (He is at work) 

I'm not mad at my DH he set a reminder on his phone and that's to be expected because he has a really hard job and is away for so long. It's not about the gifts last month my DH bought me a new car for my birthday! It's the fact that no one acknowledged the fact it was my birthday even when FB tells people. Not even my own mother wished me happy birthday ):
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by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:49 PM
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Ruffnekwife87
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 2:09 PM
Me too. And she is coming with out her husband?


Quoting nlc75:

Happy Birthday! I'm confused why is your DH's ex coming there this weekend??

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Ruffnekwife87
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 2:12 PM
They celebrate everyone else's but mine. EVERY year I have no issue with it, it just sucks that no one can remember mine


Quoting PROGENITOR:

Have you asked yourself why no one is acknowldeging your Bday? Is it part of their beliefs to not celebrate? There has to be a reason that no one acknowldges it. Maybe look into talking to a professional about your issues with this.


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CutieCrab
by Bronze Member on Oct. 12, 2012 at 2:14 PM
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:-(
Im sorry..

Well happy birthday!"
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AmaliaD
by Member on Oct. 12, 2012 at 2:14 PM

you should take that anger and go yell at your mom with it - always makes you feel better!   lol...  i am sorry - no one cares about my bday.  but now that i am in my 30s instead of 20s it doesnt even matter to me anymore. 

Ruffnekwife87
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 2:15 PM
It was just me and my kids yesterday and we did make a cake and my DS sang to me (my DD is to young but she tried!)


Quoting Willow.wind:

Bake a cake with your kids... They love to sing happy b day to mommy... It's the best

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DiANAiVELiSSE
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 2:54 PM
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 HAPPY BiRTHDAY! bunch of roses

MagicTemptation
by Christina on Oct. 12, 2012 at 3:17 PM

What does his ex coming in to town this weekend have to do with your plans to celebrate on the 20th? Make a cake with your little one. When he comes home light a candle on it :) 

My bdays are usually people just saying Happy Birthday. We haven't done anything for my bday for the last 4 years and before that I never did anything at all for my bday. Usually I worked or was in class. 

ashbrydio
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 3:23 PM

happy late bday mommy hope all is well

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Happy_Mcboobs
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 5:00 PM

Same here. I can't make friends in this town! (never had an issue before so it's not me-I hate it when people say that!)

I get it. 

though, just realize once you are a grownup, birthdays are overrated. It's not like when you are a kid! You pretty much have to plan your party yourself if you want one! (there are exceptions to that) Most of are in the same boat. Don't say people forgot--your husband remembered! My last birthday, my husband didn't say "Happy Birthday"--and you got a CAR for your birthday EARLY??? Yeah, you shouldn't be complaining! What more do you want? A party?? Well, you should have planned that yourself! 

How about being grateful that it wasn't your HUSBAND who killed himself on your birthday? Or that you & your kids weren't killed in a car wreck?? Let's think about this. 

And, no, I am not being MEAN. I am just being honest which can honestly sound mean but it isn't meant to be. It's just to make you think.

Quoting Mrs.Tirado:

I have no friends to vent to either. It sucks. Hey lets be friends. Happy birthday!


mrs_smiph
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 5:07 PM

That really sucks but it's better to make God the only one you depend on for your happiness. If you depend on people to make you happy, you're bound to be miserable for the rest of your life.

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