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Thank you everyone for your kind and honest responses and opinions! I really do believe that we can work through our issues through counseling and church(we're catholic, so divorce for me isn't an option). He admitted what he did was wrong and could've handled the whole situation better. She texted the pics he voiced he wasn't a cheater. Her stupid response was I can respect you for that. That still doesn't make her a good person. She's a home wrecker and I got a bad feeling about her the first time I met her. I have apologized to my husband for sending the pics to our family and then posted pics of her around the area branding her a home wreck. I embarrassed and humiliated him the way he did to me. Now we need to go forth with counseling and not let this ruin us.
WOW lmao , that is funny. Future reference girly don't let yourself get out of character !!! Good luck mama's
Quoting jgonzalez327:
Thank you!! I forgot to mention I forwarded the email of pics to myself, sent it to his and my family, then make copies of her face picture and made signs calling her a home wrecker and posted it around the neighborhood! Oops! I have a bad tendency to act on emotiion
Quoting B-FigNewton:I'd throw him out, and tell him to go stay with her.
he's not damned either way.... had he left he would have been saved.... but because he stayed, saved the damn pictures.... hes damned! He's a fuckin' idiot!
First of all I am going to be honest and do not mean in anyway to come off as snarky. I think it is good that you are going to get counseling. It sounds like there is more than just "trust issues" here. It seems like you have situations that are taking place that are damaging your marriage. It seems like you have a right to your questions of being able to trust your hubby but remember that when someone shows you who they are believe them the first time. Your actions of checking your hubby's emails seem to be an attempt to verify what you already know is going on. Don't compare yourself to the neighbor that he has pics of her size has nothing to do with his having pics of her. He has pics of her because they both have a lack of respect for the relationships they are in and a sort of narcissistic mindset. Dwelling on irrelevant points (her size) will take your mind off of what is important, the care of yourself and your child. Take this time to identify what you want and what you will not tolerate. Make a list of and bring it with you to your counseling session. Don't assume that your hubby will 'know' what's wrong and what needs to be addressed and don't expect the counselor to 'find' it out. You need to put it all on the table, realizing what you expect and want. And don't forget to love yourself enough to know when someone or some situation is negative or destructive to you. Good luck.
He was wrong for keeping things from you and going into her house was totally uncallled for. i would not accept this type of behaviour at all. maybe if u confront this women and her BF together then she will figure out your not playing her games and will not put up with her BS
hun, I don't know what the trust issue is, but please stop blaming your weight and all that. it's silly. I know a lot of big, very imperfect women in the adult industry and the men that pay to look at them.
there are men that pay through the nose to see that extra cushion for the push'n'. they want the giggle, they want to see that shake. you don't need to loose weight to be more attractive to him. has he even told you that you need to? I think you are letting your imagination get the best of you in the idea that you need to loose weight or that you aren't good enough.
stop it.does no good. stresses you out, no point.
feel free to P message me if you want. it's up to you if you want to work on your relationship with him, but I think you are barking up the wrong tree as to what to concern yourself with IMO.
Dh and my argument today made me so mad, and realized he is lazy
- jgonzalez327
on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:21 PM