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Husband emailed himself pictures of another woman

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Ok, so I have had trust issues with my husband, long story. But anyway, last Friday he took our daughter on a walk around the neighborhood. Back story: where we live we don't know anybody, but he works here in the area bc of his job for the airport. So anyway, there is a little girl that my daughter likes to play with when she sees her outside. So last wk on their wall, my husband and daughter stop by there. The mom, who has a bf, texts my husband (she has his number bc of work on her house) suggestive pictures of herself, like 10 pics. He says he won't cheat on his wife. So she says ok, I can respect that. Meanwhile, her bf was upstairs in the bathroom. Well my husband stayed at her house and let the girls play together!! She sends him inappropriate pictures, he says no, but still stays. I think that was highly inappropriate! But the he emails the pics to himself bc "they were hot" I found this out today. I asked why he didnt tell me right away and he said I was damned either way. Actually if he had left right away, told her not to contact him again, and then told ,e, I would have had more respect for hm. Thank god we are going to counseling on Monday, however it's awkward right nw bc he is mad at me for finding out. I found. Out via his email. I was on there to email realtors then my curiosity got the best of me. This girl is stick thin, I am not, I have boobs and an ass, it wouldn't hurt me to lose 15lbs-20lbs. So now I have all this anxiety that I need to lose weight for him to find me more attractive. I'm way more insecure than I have ever


****update*******

Thank you everyone for your kind and honest responses and opinions! I really do believe that we can work through our issues through counseling and church(we're catholic, so divorce for me isn't an option). He admitted what he did was wrong and could've handled the whole situation better. She texted the pics he voiced he wasn't a cheater. Her stupid response was I can respect you for that. That still doesn't make her a good person. She's a home wrecker and I got a bad feeling about her the first time I met her. I have apologized to my husband for sending the pics to our family and then posted pics of her around the area branding her a home wreck. I embarrassed and humiliated him the way he did to me. Now we need to go forth with counseling and not let this ruin us.
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:21 PM
Replies (31-40):
jamieharper08
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 10:38 PM

Yikes! I'd be filing for a divorce. 

rayroe2
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 11:49 PM

 LOL!!!!!!!!!! you posted that she was a home wrecker.....two thumbs up =]

3gr8tKids
by Member on Oct. 13, 2012 at 11:57 PM
What a drag.
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daijobu
by on Oct. 15, 2012 at 4:05 PM

(Hugs!)  Glad to hear you talked it through and are working on you both as a couple.  (Btw, is he still taking your daughter to see her daughter?)  Good luck! 

jgonzalez327
by on Oct. 17, 2012 at 2:32 PM
Quoting daijobu:

(Hugs!)  Glad to hear you talked it through and are working on you both as a couple.  (Btw, is he still taking your daughter to see her daughter?)  Good luck! 





No, they moved and he has not had any contact with her.we went to counseling and have sorted everything out. He admitted he didn't want a divorce, he loves me, and there would be too much to lose if he had cheated on me. It's going to be slow, but we are going to move past this and start making our relationship better. Has anyone ever heard of the love dare? I bought it and thought about giving it a try
Rowdys.Mommy
by Member on Oct. 17, 2012 at 2:39 PM

Why did you send it to his family and then post the pictures around where you live? THat was soooo not the right thing to do at all! 

Good luck with couseling, I hope you both learn something there! 

Rowdys.Mommy
by Member on Oct. 17, 2012 at 2:42 PM

Cheaters can change and divorce is used way too much now days! People need to learn to fight for marriage!

Quoting shilohkitten:

THIS!

And if he's cheating on you, you don't want him.  Skip counseling and go for divorce.  Cheaters never change unless they are really in love.




Rowdys.Mommy
by Member on Oct. 17, 2012 at 2:52 PM

The mature thing to do would be to stay out of it, the issues that you and your husband have (biblically speaking) should be between the two of you and then council if you feel you should seek it. Other than that it should remain behind closed doors because dragging other people in will just complicate things more.

If you don't mind me asking, how old are yall?

Quoting jgonzalez327:

But you know what pisses me off, so I sent the pics to his family and mine. My side of the family is like go girl, but his side is like really? Was that a good idea? Nobody from his side of the family is saying son, you fucked up!!


Rowdys.Mommy
by Member on Oct. 17, 2012 at 2:55 PM

The love dare is amazing! I highly reccomend it!

Quoting jgonzalez327:

Quoting daijobu:

(Hugs!)  Glad to hear you talked it through and are working on you both as a couple.  (Btw, is he still taking your daughter to see her daughter?)  Good luck! 





No, they moved and he has not had any contact with her.we went to counseling and have sorted everything out. He admitted he didn't want a divorce, he loves me, and there would be too much to lose if he had cheated on me. It's going to be slow, but we are going to move past this and start making our relationship better. Has anyone ever heard of the love dare? I bought it and thought about giving it a try


shilohkitten
by on Oct. 17, 2012 at 3:41 PM

IF they want to.  To me it doesn't sound like he wants to and do you really want to be married to someone who is only with you because they feel they have to???

People who want to be married do fight for it.  People who don't, don't.

Quoting Rowdys.Mommy:

Cheaters can change and divorce is used way too much now days! People need to learn to fight for marriage!

Quoting shilohkitten:

THIS!

And if he's cheating on you, you don't want him.  Skip counseling and go for divorce.  Cheaters never change unless they are really in love.





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