Ok, so if the subject makes you queasy, turn away now...lol.
Anywho, I was wondering how open are you and your SO when it comes to the bathroom? In my house, we have an open door policy unless we have guests. We are very comfortable with each other and our bathroom habits -we feel like we have nothing to hide, and in fact we get concerned if one of us actually closes a door (whether in the bathroom or another room).
IMO, I feel like if we truly love each other and plan on being together until we are old farts, then we should be comfortable with that kind of stuff. Who knows- maybe some day one of us will be unable to take care of ourselves and thus rely on the other to do so? After my c-section, my hubby had to help me in the bathroom when it was too painful to bend over and "take care of myself."
Growing up, my mom was the complete opposite from me. She only passed gas around my sister and I (she wouldn't do it in front my my brothers or dad), and she still to this day gets up before everyone else to go poop. I just don't get it - if you love someone enough to marry them, shouldn't you feel comfortable with them seeing all aspects of you?
What's the policy in your relationship?
Closed door. I just want my privacy (though my daughter comes in and then leaves the door open - so perhaps I really have an open door). Anyway, I like my privacy and he likes his. He used to LOCK the door! WTF? Like I am going to waltz in on him? I got him to stop locking it by saying what if something happended and you needed help, but I couldn't get in right away because you LOCKED the door!
Closed door policy. There are just certain times in life when privacy is expected. The bathroom is one of those times. As a matter of fact, I lock the door. That also goes for my evening bubble bath. During my morning shower, my girls or DH may need to come in the bathroom because everyone is getting ready for their day so it's not a big deal. But during my evening bubble bath, locked door and you better leave me alone. That's my time. And if I need to use the bathroom, I don't need your help or your input. You are useless to me and there's another bathroom if you need it so stay out.
We leave it open to pee (me all the time, dh only when our dd is asleep or not there) and its closed when we have to poop. I enjoy my privacy with it. And dh kicks it because dd likes to try and see what daddy is doing. Lol, it freaks him out.
not sure why it is bothering me but
- aimesnyc
on Oct. 19, 2012 at 11:57 AM