For Those Who Had Major Issues in Their Marriage. UPDATE
DH and I have been best friends since the age of 3. Together for 15 years married nearly 7. We have three beautiful children. We have had our share of problems but, nothing to this magnitude.
DH was a touring musician for the past 9 years or so. He absolutely loved it. Performing is his way of expression. He gave it over the end of this past summer so he could be with the kids and me more. Things at first were going great. The kids were happy that their father was home and so was I.
Lately however, everything has turned for the worst. DH is miserable at his job as a studio musician. Last night we fought something fierece. It started when I lost is some when he turned me down for sex again. We haven't had sex in two months. He told me that I was holding him back. That he had opportunities musically that he didnt take because of me and the kids. He quickly realized what he said and apologized. However, it seemed to linger and stung so much to me. We have spoken since then. He slept out on his hammock last night. He is doing it again tonight. I am little worried about him because it is freezing outside. I think is going through some severe depression. He has had a terrible life and somehow he blames me for taking away the thing that helped heal him. However, I never once asked him to stop, I fully supported him.
I miss the guy who used to come through my bedroom windwow when we were kids and all I needed to do was hold him and protect him from his crackhead parents. I miss the man who loved me with all of his being.
What were the major issues in your marriage? How did you get through them? I need your help ladies. I am affraid my best friend is pulling away from me.
We came to an agreement that he would start his band back up. He will start seeing a therapist. After almost a week not sharing a bed that is all about the end tonight :)