sometimes we communicate through texting, but we have made it an unspoken rule that we are not to be on our phones at the dinner table(whether at home or out) because i realized we were becoming that couple you see who sits at the table and doesnt talk and is just looking at their phones. I told him we are never to become like that even when we are 70
We text when he is at work but when he is home we just talk. We have a very open relationship and can talk to each other about anything. I don't text him about something really important that needs to be talked about face to face. You leave out stuff when you are texting or it comes out wrong. I wouldn't want him to be upset all day because he didn't understand what I was saying. Important things need to be talked about face to face.
I met my husband online too, and for a long time, instant message was how we had difficult conversations. I have always felt I express myself better through written words, and some things are embarrassing to talk about face to face. So that's how I did it.
Eventually we grew comfortable enough with each other to have the hard talks with our mouths instead of our fingers lol. It took us a long time because for a lot of our relationship we talked mostly on the computer. But if you work at it and keep talking and keep pushing your comfort zone a little at a time you will eventually get there.
We have been together 9 years now, married 6, and it's much easier to talk in person than through text or IM now :)
Keep trying!



- bluesky4u0911
on Nov. 16, 2012 at 2:58 AM