Does DH get angry/upset with you if you're not in the mood?
So many things going on in our marriage and this is one of them. It's been an ongoing thing for I would say 6 years now (married 8). We have a 3 yr old and 10 month old twins whom I take care of all day while he works full time. He works from home and when he's bored or wants a break he often comes see me and let's me know he's in the mood. The thing is, I'm changing diapers all day and wiping food and boogers haha and it's hard for me to snap out of that mommy mode and be all lovey dovey with him. There's also other issues going on between us and my sex drive is just going down because of it. Point is, I can't say no. Because when I say I'm not in the mood right now, he gets pissed off. He won't say it's because of that but he'll ignore me and the kids the rest of the day or night because he's frustrated. I've tried everything from being nice about it and saying: how about we really make time for each other tonight. He just doesn't care about that because he wants it now. And how much? Uhm all the time. Almost every day. Not sex alone but all the other things that men want. Can't he understand that with three kids around all day he can't just get what he wants all the time? If anything, he shouldn't get mad at me. That's not fair. Especially when I do everything at home. Household and kids and then expects me to in the mood all the time. Oh and if I'm not in the mood, sometimes ill pretend just to make him happy but he kinda knows from my attitude that I'm not. He'll still complain because I'm not showing enough affection or I'm not into him enough. Really?
Anyone same issue?