Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

how do i bring this up

Posted by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:18 PM
  • 47 Replies

so i have access to husband account, email. 

i was on checking it, because of the job searches and other things. 

found out he is a member of cheaters.net. 

logged onto his account, found messages from women, and his account is filled out, only his profile says he will fill out the information later. 

i saw it before, and asked him, and he said that it was from his old email account. 

he is at work until 11pm....i'm so half tempted to call him and tell him he needs to come home and explain himself. 

by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:18 PM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
tihone77
by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:22 PM

Is he replying, or is it inbox messages?  Either way, let him stay at work and give your self the time to calm down, snoop more and figure out what you will say to him.

StrawberryCool
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:24 PM


Quoting tihone77:

Is he replying, or is it inbox messages?  Either way, let him stay at work and give your self the time to calm down, snoop more and figure out what I will say to him.

i went into the sent messages, and it was empty.....it says after 30 days sent emails will be delted.

but it doesn't seem like he was responding or sending.

Twix.Leigh
by Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:24 PM
1 mom liked this
What PP said. I'd be searching EVERYTHING I had access to if it were me. And if the evidence was enough, he would have a bag packed when he got home, and I'd be telling him to find a place to stay for the night so I could think.
Posted on the NEW CafeMom Mobile
hippiechik3
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:24 PM
1 mom liked this

So honey I was checking up on the job seaches an came upon a cheaters profile of yours... Whats this about?

tihone77
by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:26 PM

I don't know how you should bring it up, but if it were me (assuming that's the only thing) I'd have him delete the account in front of me.  Then tell him that that crap won't be tolerated because it's disrespectful to our relationship.

Quoting StrawberryCool:


Quoting tihone77:

Is he replying, or is it inbox messages?  Either way, let him stay at work and give your self the time to calm down, snoop more and figure out what I will say to him.

i went into the sent messages, and it was empty.....it says after 30 days sent emails will be delted.

but it doesn't seem like he was responding or sending.


StrawberryCool
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:27 PM


Quoting hippiechik3:

So honey I was checking up on the job seaches an came upon a cheaters profile of yours... Whats this about?

he said that it was from a deleted email account. 

and i know with some email accounts you can link them together. 

i questioned him about it.

StrawberryCool
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:28 PM

he knows it's not tolerated. 

i don't even allow porn in our relationship

Quoting tihone77:

I don't know how you should bring it up, but if it were me (assuming that's the only thing) I'd have him delete the account in front of me.  Then tell him that that crap won't be tolerated because it's disrespectful to our relationship.

Quoting StrawberryCool:


Quoting tihone77:

Is he replying, or is it inbox messages?  Either way, let him stay at work and give your self the time to calm down, snoop more and figure out what I will say to him.

i went into the sent messages, and it was empty.....it says after 30 days sent emails will be delted.

but it doesn't seem like he was responding or sending.



StrawberryCool
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:39 PM
1 mom liked this


Quoting Twix.Leigh:

What PP said. I'd be searching EVERYTHING I had access to if it were me. And if the evidence was enough, he would have a bag packed when he got home, and I'd be telling him to find a place to stay for the night so I could think.

well see i believe in my marraige and my vows. 

i don't think kicking himi to the curb is the answer.

tihone77
by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:40 PM

Well then, why does he still have the account?  Shouldn't he have deleted it the first time you saw it?

Quoting StrawberryCool:

he knows it's not tolerated. 

i don't even allow porn in our relationship

Quoting tihone77:

I don't know how you should bring it up, but if it were me (assuming that's the only thing) I'd have him delete the account in front of me.  Then tell him that that crap won't be tolerated because it's disrespectful to our relationship.

Quoting StrawberryCool:


Quoting tihone77:

Is he replying, or is it inbox messages?  Either way, let him stay at work and give your self the time to calm down, snoop more and figure out what I will say to him.

i went into the sent messages, and it was empty.....it says after 30 days sent emails will be delted.

but it doesn't seem like he was responding or sending.




KeimUNCmomof3
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:44 PM
3 moms liked this

How about you delete it?!  lol...and if he questions it, then you know you have a problem.  If you delete it and he doesn't say anything, then u know he was telling you the truth.

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)