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Would you let your DH visit with a female friend?

Okay, so before my DH and I used to go visit a mutual friend of ours. We usually would visit on this girl's break at her parents restaurant. (They don't allow her to go for a walk or anything like that.) I figured I would let my DH go visit her by himself because our DD likes to run around all the time and every time we visited our friend I was the one who ended up going outside with DD all the time. (My DH is better friends with her anyway.) Since I got tired of just being the babysitter I just decided that it was logical for my DH to go alone. I feel a bit jealous and worried though. About 8 months ago she told him that she used to like him. It's kinda stupid but I kept wondering why she felt the need to tell him that since he's married and all. I guess I'm just worried that she will like him again. Is that stupid? I know my DH has never liked her that way.

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by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:32 PM
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by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:39 PM
DF had a friend who admittedly had feelings for him. I was ok with them hanging out because I trusted him. They had been friends long before I came along and if he wanted her he could have had her then. He ended the friendship when she started perusing him and making things weird. If you trust him I'd say keep trusting him. If the roles were reversed I would love and respect him more for trusting me.
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by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:46 PM
He would never go to a females house unless i went wiyh him.
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by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:02 PM

I would have a problem since she told him she used to like him.

by Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:33 PM

She told my sister that "I do not deserve my DH, and that I am mean to him. I must not love him very much , because I will not have sex with him every night." I look at it like if that is the yard stick you measure relationships with wow are you one shallow human being. This is of course hilarious coming from someone who has never even had a legit boyfriend in her whole 38 years of life. I don't consider a "fuck buddy" any kind of relationship. So, I don't know where she gets the marbles  to counsel my husband on the quality of our marriage. I was not aware Dr Ruth died and made her the god of sex thearapy ethier.

Quoting nsparky1964:

Quoting LClark1973:

 My husband had female friends at onne point, and I never said much about it. One of them had been around for a few years, and she caused a lot of trouble. I fianlly sat my husband down and pointed out exactly what her behavior was doing to us. It caused a fight everytime. I told him, because of her behavior she is not welcome here. He waffled for a few times , then just accepted that she is not supportive of our marriage and she is not welcome anymore in our life.

hubs has one a friend that has caused a ton of trouble between us...she would sext him, asking him to meet up and all...He told me prior to all of this that they did go out once, they slept together once...When I confronted her on the last text msg i found (since then she's been blocked from our cell provider) she told me she was jealous of me, and that she "loved" him..I told her bitch please, he f'ed you once, he took you out once, and you love him...what are you 15?..

then i told him that people like that regardless of their sex have no respect for you/me or our marriage...he saw my point, and voluntarily blocked her from everything....

by Jenn! on Nov. 19, 2012 at 10:32 PM
That is sketchy. :( I'm sorry.

I wouldn't allow my husband to spend time alone with a girl ever. I've made that mistake. Or should I say we.
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 10:47 PM

Let? what

If he wanted to go, of course he could go..

My husband has many female friends he spends time with all the time. I would not be married to him if I did not trust him with other females.

by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 10:49 PM

 I would let my husband. It wouldn't bother me at all. He has no problem with me going to see my male friends so I wouldn't have a problem with him seeing a woman friend.

by on Nov. 20, 2012 at 12:20 AM
He had to cut his female friends from our life. They were causing trouble.
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by on Nov. 20, 2012 at 12:51 AM

My DH can visit a couple of our female friends alone if he wished, but he wouldn't want to for one, & two they would be asking why I wasn't there cause they like me too, likely they would be upset he was there alone, cause they would think something was wrong.

by on Nov. 20, 2012 at 8:09 AM

 so he is going to visit an underage freind while on her break at work while you stay home? idk she is a friend of his my dh works with woman talks to them is friends with them he rode with 2 chics to this huge thing in chicago I was helping with and already there they met up with me?? idk I dont see a prob we have female neighbores if one needed him for something I dont care he dont care if I am around men???

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