is it possible

[Mithsue]

After my son was diagnosed with autism, Aside from my dh, I was left with only 2 real friends 1 male friend and 1 female friend. My female friend is constantly busy so we only see each other once in a while. My male friend and I worked the same schedule so we always saw each other and he would hang out with me and my son at therapy, the park, ect... My husband recently told me that he does not want me hanging out with my male friend any longer (which I'm upset about but I will not risk my marriage for a friendship). Since Dh knows that this will leave me relatively friendless he suggests that I attempt to befriend his friends S/O. I don't like the idea, do you think its possible to be real friends with your dh's friends S/O? (My dh's friends aren't the best at keeping relationships I should add)

[AlannaMaria]

It's possible to be friends with your DH friend SO. Do you have anything in common with them? Maybe you could meet some moms at the library? Where do you live? Maybe you could make a post in a couple groups your into see if anyone lives in your area that you could meet at the park or something. I moved 16hrs from my home town with no friends or family and met my really good friend on Cafemom and she happend to live less then 10 min down the rd. we have been really good friends ever since :)

[Mithsue]

Wow those are great ideas! But I don't know if I have anything in common with them. I was worried about drama or if they were to split would I lose a friend too and I live in south Florida,

Quoting AlannaMaria:

It's possible to be friends with your DH friend SO. Do you have anything in common with them? Maybe you could meet some moms at the library? Where do you live? Maybe you could make a post in a couple groups your into see if anyone lives in your area that you could meet at the park or something. I moved 16hrs from my home town with no friends or family and met my really good friend on Cafemom and she happend to live less then 10 min down the rd. we have been really good friends ever since :)

[KyrinM]

I would suggest he do the same, he wants you to be friends with his friends, tell him you want him to be friends with your friends too. Ask him to get to know your male friend & give him a chance to be his friend too. Likely he will like him just fine when he realizes he isn't out to steal you. I know my DH was worried about my friend M, until he met him & M's wife, now all 4 of us hang out every other week for board games & just general goofing off. As for other friends, see about joining a local Autism group. Good luck.

[Mithsue]

I've tried asking dh to befriend my male friend and it didn't work out :-(... dh thought that if they became friends that meant we wouldn't hang out unless he was there too...and that's a good idea about the autism group!

Quoting KyrinM:

I would suggest he do the same, he wants you to be friends with his friends, tell him you want him to be friends with your friends too. Ask him to get to know your male friend & give him a chance to be his friend too. Likely he will like him just fine when he realizes he isn't out to steal you. I know my DH was worried about my friend M, until he met him & M's wife, now all 4 of us hang out every other week for board games & just general goofing off. As for other friends, see about joining a local Autism group. Good luck.

[queencreekmom]

Moms club was how I made friends when we moved. I am also in an Aspergers group for my son and have made a good friend there. Ironically, my BFF I made through my DH. He met a guy at work that was moving into our neighborhood and they came over so we could all meet. We had 2 year old sons and she had a newborn and I was pregnant. Now 10 years later we are still best friends, as are our 12 year old sons!