O.K., back in September, I caught my husband cheating on me, it had been going on for a couple of months, I knew it was going on and he lied to me over and over when I asked him straight up if he was cheating. I put it a lot of different ways and the response was always "no". I knew because, he got really mean and treated me very poorly, plus, he had told me about the woman coming up to him at work and bothering him (yes, he works with her). Anyway, I always thought that if I caught him cheating, it would be over but, I couldn't let him go and, we agreed to work things out. He left a few times within the following weeks but, always came back and talked me into letting him stay. He has been back about three months now and we have been getting along, he isn't being mean, he comes home the same time every night, sex has gotten more frequent and better.
My problem is, I'm having a hard time getting past the affair, especially since I know she is there the entire time when he is working. I've done really well about not snooping and staying away from his job but, the other night, I had to go there and see if anything was going on. When I pulled into the parking lot, her car was parked right next to his truck, which I find suspicious, but, he says that he gets there before her and, he can't help where she parks. He hasn't been doing anything weird like coming home late or leaving home and staying gone for hours and there haven't been any numbers on our phone bill and he texts me from time to timefrom work. My mother thinks I should just not bring her up anymore and try to trust that he's telling me the truth because, if he is still cheating, I will find out. She thinks he would start treating me the same way as before.
So, any thoughts?