I dont know what to do... DH drinks too much... Please HELP!
Hey- this is my first post but i have decided i need advice! sorry if i am rambling but i have a lot to say and need advice about it!
I have been married for two years but we have lived together for 5 years. We have been through very trying situations, such as drugs, homelessness, etc. together. We have been sober (from drugs) for about 3 years. we have a 2 yo dd and i am expecting in July! My dh is an Alcoholic and he always has been. But now that we have a child(soon-to-be-children). I cant put up with it anymore. I have asked him to stop. only to get blamed for his drinking. I have told him its us or alcohol. only to realize i cant do it on my own. I have tried bargining with him saying if i get on antidepressant will you quit drinking for 5 days. only for his end of the deal never to be carried through. Nothing i do has helped. we are starting to get into more and more arguements (some infront of our dd, even tho i try not to). not to mention the added stress on our unborn.
He works 5-10 days and then is home for 3-5. He doesnt drink at work but he comes home with a 12pack or 5th in his hands. 75+% of the days he is home he is drunk. He says i need to get over his drinking because he is the one feeding our family. I just dont know what to do anymore.
I also want to add that when he is home and sober(rare occasion) he is a wonderful dad and husband. I just dont know if it worth the stress of the 'other times'
Please help me understand why or what to do? I am just lost and sad!