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Would You Be Upset if Your Ring Was From a Big Chain Store?

Posted by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 10:54 AM
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An Engagement Ring From a Big Retail Chain Store Is Just Tacky & Tasteless

Posted by Kiri Blakeley

Recently, a woman confessed in CafeMom that she found out her fiance had bought her engagement ring at a big chain store. She admitted she was upset about it and asked if others would be. Wellllllllz ... the first answer pretty much summed up the universal holier than thou response: "No. I am not materialistic." At first, I had the same thought. Hey, it's not about the ring, Miss Hoity-Toity! It's about the person, the relationship ... yada yada.

But then I sat with the question. I pictured myself opening up a box and inside finding a lovely ring. And then I pictured looking that ring up online and discovering it came from some big chain retail store. Or actually seeing that name on the box. And I had to admit I'd be -- something. Maybe not mad. But definitely not happy. Yet I'm not a materialistic person. No romantic partner has ever paid for a single day of my upkeep. I wear thrift store clothes until they have holes in them. So what gives?

A ring from some big box store reeks of, "I just happened to drive by a Big Store XYZ and was like, 'Oh yeah, better stop in and get a ring.'" It smacks of putting no thought into it. Like, Hey, lemme pick up some Pringles, pudding packs, spiral notebooks, and an engagement ring!

And no, I'm not materialistic. In fact, I was quite happy with the engagement ring my fiance gave me -- and that was FREE. He spent ZERO money on it. That's because he got it from his mother, who was given the ring by her husband on the occasion of my fiance's birth. In fact, I was glad he hadn't spent money on it because at the time neither one of us had much. And it came with special meaning.

I also don't agree with what big box stores stand for -- billions in profits that are not passed along in health care or livable employee wages, and prices so low that it forces small local shops out of business and closes plants that open up overseas where they can pay people much, much less. I don't give those places business if I can help it, so I certainly don't want to look at their brand name on my left hand for the next however-many years. (Here we could get into the ethics of buying diamonds in general, but that's another post.)

If you don't have much money, there are other places you can go for an affordable ring. EBay. Craigslist. Vintage stores. BlueNile.com. (Personally, I love the idea of getting a great classy ring for a decent price just because someone else happened to wear it.) I guess if there isn't ANY other place to buy a diamond beyond a big box store in your hometown, and your guy didn't want one sent through the mail, then so be it. But it still smacks of lazy to me.

Would I break up with a guy over a generic big retail store ring? Of course not. Would I pout about it endlessly? I hope not. But something deep, deep inside of me would shudder. And not in a good way.

Would you be upset if your ring was from a big chain store?

by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 10:54 AM
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MrsApple
by Silver Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 10:59 AM

It would not bother me in the least.I've never even been curious as to where my rings came from or how much they cost.Why should it matter? People are not going to be looking at your ring thinking," ewww,I bet it came from Walmart!" and if they do,to hell with them!

frzmamaof4
by Bronze Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:02 AM
Who cares where the ring comes from, it's the thought that counts! But my dh went to Kay Jewelers:-)
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Bertieb
by Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:29 AM

Depends on the couples financial abilities, lifestyle, etc. For my situation, my girlfriends would ask where he got the ring and if I said a discount department store they would pity me and think he was a jerk. You know, if the guy drives a nice car, wears nice clothes, spends on his hobbies,  and knows where to go to treat himself, he better do the same for his bride! My DH didn't want to spend that 3 months salary thing or whatever, but he did get me a ring from a nice jewelry store. Is it as big as I would have wanted, no, but his love is!

Lorena
by Silver Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:33 AM
I would kinda care it boils down to the idea of the ring and what it stands for. The only reason I care is because im allergic to most Jewelry. We bought our rings at Walmart which is why I can't ware mine. Otherwise I wouldn't care.
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Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:34 AM
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I could careless where my fiance gets my ring from. It's the thought that counts.

Shit, I've pointed rings out at Kmart that I thought were really pretty.

EmmaZate
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:39 AM
My ting came from Kay and his mother. The diamond was his moms, and she gave him permission to change it for me, so he had it fitted to one of their rings. My wedding band came from there also
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SKYSMOM22308
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 2:35 PM

no it doesn't matter where it came from

pittymama
by Silver Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 4:35 PM
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nope. when we first looked at rings, we looked at wal mart, just to see what they had for us. he wound up going to zales but i told him wal mart would've been just fine :)

AliKatCam
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 5:09 PM
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Nope and here is why. I was walking in a jewlery department of a store and I saw the most beautiful ring I have ever seen in my entire life. I would have bought it for myself but who does that? I pulled my BF over and showed it to him and tried it on. The ring was freaking perfect. It wasn't huge but neither is my hand. Where did I find this ring? Wal-freaking-Mart. Yup it was Walmart that had the ring that made my heart flutter and that is now the promise ring on my finger. When it is time to trade it in for an engagement ring then I am sure I wouldn't care if it was from Walmart or Target or Sears.  It is not the place you get it from. It is that feeling you get when you see it. And if your man had that feeling in Walmart then why does it matter because its not from some fancy pants jewelry store. Also you have to take in mind that shopping for a ring is not easy. You can search and search and never find the right one. When you do, you get it, no matter where it is from.

liveforever
by Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 5:10 PM

Id only be upset that he wasted money. Those rings are not good quality...and this is coming from someone who works in the jewlery dept of one of those stores!

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