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Your disrepecting your husband!

If you go out and have fun! This is what my neice told me today. She said in a healthy marriage, if you respect your husband. Then you won't go out with gf, stay out till 1:00 am just having innocent fun. I disagree! We all need at some point need a break from our mother and wife duties to let our hair down, go have some fun. Don't go cheat, or stay out all night. Maybe once in a while go have a drink or whatever you like to do. It don't mean you don't love your husband, or tired of being married. She also said control should be part of a relationship? That's bull! No one should be trying to control no One, we ain't robots. In a healthy marriage should be able to trust, and compromise.
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by on Dec. 8, 2012 at 10:58 AM
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Fields456
by Silver Member on Dec. 9, 2012 at 6:09 PM
My mil tried to tell my dh that after she got remarried We both laughed. Everyone needs time to just go out with their friends.
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KRYSTALK1013
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 9:56 AM

We encourage each other to go out. Marriage doesn't constitute the end of your "old" life, just the start of a new one. 

beaugrl0824
by Bronze Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 9:58 AM
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I am a terrible wife then! I'm in a golf league and a softball league without Dh and have girls night often even if its a glass a wine with my best friend across the street.

I respect and love my husband but I need my space.
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Fabulous24
by Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 9:59 AM
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I guess on a terrible wife. I go out at least twice a month with my gf, weather It's meeting for lunch, going out for drinks or dancing. My girls and i even go away on trips sometimes. I believe in having a balance. Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to lose yourself. Doesn't take away from me being a wife or mother at all.
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Raeann11
by Silver Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 10:53 AM

I rarely stay out that late. Everyone has there own opinions on this. You need to do what works for you family. 

HouseMa
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 11:20 AM

*You're

*doesn't, saying he don't, or it don't makes you sound like ghetto trash, stop doing it.

*aren't, ain't is not a word and it makes you sound more ghetto than using don't improperly.


TommyAbby
by Melissa on Dec. 10, 2012 at 2:14 PM

Actually, Ain't is a word. It was introduced into the 1992 Merriam-Webster dictionary as the contraction of am not


Quoting HouseMa:

*You're

*doesn't, saying he don't, or it don't makes you sound like ghetto trash, stop doing it.

*aren't, ain't is not a word and it makes you sound more ghetto than using don't improperly.



Playitagain
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 2:52 PM

I think it depends on your marriage. I never go out without Dh and the same on his side. We also would never stay out that late anyhow, he works 6 days a week, and I wake up with him at 5:30 am every morning.

We've been married close to 20 years, and its always been like this. HOWEVER, that being said that is our marriage. I know lots of people who go out, sometimes its a good thing sometimes its a bad thing. If its my aunt, its a bad thing, she met her 3rd and 4th husbands that way LOL (Im being funny). However, I think if you both agree its fine then it is. I guess in the end its very much a situation of who you are and what your relationship is like.

If I did that, my DH would be not so much angry as he would be worried about me. Its not like there would be a big fight or anything. I don't think its disrespectful if you both have the same feelings on the issue. 

We also have the same friends, as a rule I cant stand women. I couldn't starting in middle school and ever since. Our friends are basically all guys also. I think it would be different if I had girl friends.

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