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Do you appreciate your spouse?

Posted by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:00 AM
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My Husband Had to Move Out for Me to Realize How Much I Love Him

Posted by Sasha Brown-Worsham on December 10, 2012 

marriageMy husband and I have been living apart from one another for the past three months while we move from our current home to our new one that is 300 miles away. Our kids are finishing up the school semester in our current home, so Monday through Friday, they are with me while my husband stays in a hotel near his new job.

It's exhausting, it's hard, and it's overwhelming at times. The absence has made me miss him in so many ways. I miss having someone I can chat with at the end of my day. I miss having him to bounce ideas off of at night (the phone is just not the same). I miss his advice, his companionship, his friendship, and his presence in my bed, especially late at night when things get scary.

But it also has its good side.

My husband and I have known one another for 25 years. We have been friends most of that time and together for nearly 12 years. We know each other inside and out, and yes, like any couple, we take each other for granted.

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I have always assumed that I have his help and support, so I don't really "appreciate" it. Now that there is no one to pick up the ketchup on the way home from work or get the kids dressed in the morning while I finish something I am working on, I am so aware of the times he is home and the help he provides. I practically weep with joy when I hear his key in the lock and I know he is back, and I always cry when he leaves.

The times when he is home are explosive and passionate in the bedroom and loving and warm outside the bedroom. As much as I am thrilled these weeks apart are coming to a close (we are hopefully finally moving next week), I also wonder: Can we stay so close AND live in the same place?

I doubt it.

The appreciation (and the hot sex) that happens due to absence can't really be re-created once we are back together 24/7. It's such a shame.

Really, the fact is we get married and live together so long, we think the other person will always be around. But the truth is, in the scheme of things, our time together is a blip. It's so short. We SHOULD be appreciating every second. But the dishes and the laundry and the bills always seem to help us forget.

Well no more dammit. I am going to try my hardest to keep this clarity in my heart so I remember even when my hubby is driving me up a wall when he buys zucchini instead of cucumber or almond milk instead of rice milk that I am grateful and happy to have him in my life and I miss him terribly when he is not around.

I predict that promise will last about a week.

Do you appreciate your spouse?

by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:00 AM
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by Trica on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:12 AM
Yes every day!! I appreciate his parents for having him!
And he appreciates me!! ♡
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by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:23 PM

Yes.  The longest we've been apart was 2 weeks. It was the longest 2 weeks of our lives.  

I make it a point to tell him often how much I appreciate his working so hard to make a better life for us.  

by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:29 PM

Yes lord

by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:34 PM
No I don't and haven't for a long time. That would be the main reason we are separating :-( he is suppose to move out maybe this weekend :-( I'm starting to realize already just how much he does. I always complain about the things he doesn't do instead of appreciating the things he does do. We are gonna try and work on things once he goes and we both have time to think about what we both really want.
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by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:07 PM
I couldn't tell you how much I appreciate the ten to twelve hours he spends at work... Only to put up the tree at midnite, because I can't.
Taking off for my dr appts. Knowing he's going to have to make up time later that day... Perhaps to two am.

I appreciate the way he still looks at me as a princess even though I have a disability now.

I love how he takes over tot duty on the occasional day off so I can sleep.

The constant, papers he researches for other treatments.

God sent him to me to cry on, laugh with, love with.... I can't imagine a more perfect partner to go through the better and worse parts of life forever with.
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by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 3:08 PM

I do appreciate my husband and his dedication to our family. I miss him when he's working long days and I value his time and opinions when I need to talk and share ideas.

by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 4:44 PM

Omgosh YES I extremely appreciate him in soooo  many ways and I am sure to let him know it frequently, that's the least I can do to show my appreciation!

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by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 5:01 PM


by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 8:46 PM

Yes I  apperciate  him  every  day and  before  he  leaves  for  work I  tell him  how much I appericate  him and  all he  does  and  always tell him I love him

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