This is what I want to tell my Husband (if he'd shut up long enough to listen):
A message from a Stay At Home Mom to her Husband,
Just because you come home to a messy house doesn't mean that I haven't washed & dried ten loads of laundry, folded them & put them away today.
Just because there are toys all over the floor when you come home doesn't mean that I haven't swept & mopped that floor. Or that I haven't picked up the toys twice already.
Just because I occasionally spend money on the kids or (GASP!) myself doesn't mean I haven't earned it.
Just because we are eating pizza for dinner doesn't mean I haven't spent the whole day in the kitchen, wiping down cabinets, cleaning the oven, cleaning out the fridge, & doing it all while wrangling our three young children.
Just because I do take a break or get sick once in a while doesn't mean I haven't fulfilled my contract as the person who takes care of our home & children. In fact, when you call in sick, you stay home in bed. When I get sick, I drag myself to the couch & attempt to keep the kids from killing each other or tearing down the house. How many breaks do you take at work? You get up from your desk occasionally, I assume. Does anyone stand at the door & scream or barge right in while you're using the bathroom there? How many cups of tea sit & go tepid before you've had one drink & are flat out cold before you get a second?
And just because I say "No" to sex (that you ask for every single day) doesn't mean that I don't love you or want you. It means that you came home from work after an 8 hour day & sat on the computer or watched TV while I juggled dinner, play time, bath time, & bed time & STILL did another load of laundry or dishes after the kids were asleep. The last hour of my 16 hour day is the ONLY time I have to myself, & frankly there are days where I'd rather not share it with you.
If you would just read this list & try to comprehend even a small fraction of it, you would realize that you have so many things wrong about me since I began staying home with the kids. However, up until 4 months ago, I did all that, plus worked 40 hours a week just like you. And I wasn't half as angry at you as you are at me since I stopped bringing home a paycheck. Now start treating me better, or I'll go back to work, leave you, & take half of your paycheck as well.
Love, Your Wife