So I have been with my DH now for almost four years, we just got married though like a month before. He has three children from a previous marriage, who I love and adore with all my heart as if they were my own...I don't have any biological children. I would like to have one in the future I am just afraid of how it will affect the kids and their reaction to it. My husband has stated that they would be perfectly okay with it, but I don't want them to feel as if Daddy is forgetting about them. He's a great father, he cooks, he cleans, he even does puke detail (lol).
Has anyone out here been in a similar situation? Any advice you could give me? Thank you in advance!
My husband has two children from his first wife, two amazing little girls who are my entire world. We've been married 6 years, they're 13 and 9. We have two biological children, both boys, who are 3 and 9 months, and I am pregnant. It was a transition when I was pregnant and had our first son, but we made sure we didn't treat the new baby any differently, we still did the same things with the girls that we had done before, and it wasn't even that hard, because we loved all the children the same.
Every situation in different because all people are different.
Quoting happysnappyJ:My husband has two children from his first wife, two amazing little girls who are my entire world. We've been married 6 years, they're 13 and 9. We have two biological children, both boys, who are 3 and 9 months, and I am pregnant. It was a transition when I was pregnant and had our first son, but we made sure we didn't treat the new baby any differently, we still did the same things with the girls that we had done before, and it wasn't even that hard, because we loved all the children the same.
Yes. This pregnancy wasn't really planned per se, but we weren't preventing it either. Why do you say brave woman?
Quoting dallas4nu:
Wow...were these all planned pregnancies? Your a brave women! Lol
Quoting happysnappyJ:My husband has two children from his first wife, two amazing little girls who are my entire world. We've been married 6 years, they're 13 and 9. We have two biological children, both boys, who are 3 and 9 months, and I am pregnant. It was a transition when I was pregnant and had our first son, but we made sure we didn't treat the new baby any differently, we still did the same things with the girls that we had done before, and it wasn't even that hard, because we loved all the children the same.
This. My step mom is a bitch from hell, and if I could hate anyone it would be her. She wanted it to be just her, my dad and my step sister and for him to leave me and my oldest sister our of the picture. Well she got her wish but now my dads seeing how closed off we are to him and how dd is a lot closer to my mom. My step mom would buy me garage sale clothes and get clothes from the mall for my step sister. She would make me walk to school while she drove my sister and it's a lot of other things as well.
As long as you treat them equally and don't ever give favoritism to your child, then they will be more than happy if y'all had a child. I'm not saying don't spoil your own child but if you want to do something for your child just remember not to leave the others out.
Quoting Lorena:
They will be fine. The key however is to make everyone feel special and lived without showing any favoritism to any particular child.
I have 2 children from a previous relationship and I married my husband 4 years ago. we had one child and my older children adore him and love having a little brother. the older ones love my husband and he takes care of them as well as our little one.
Quoting MrsSexyCurtains:This. My step mom is a bitch from hell, and if I could hate anyone it would be her. She wanted it to be just her, my dad and my step sister and for him to leave me and my oldest sister our of the picture. Well she got her wish but now my dads seeing how closed off we are to him and how dd is a lot closer to my mom. My step mom would buy me garage sale clothes and get clothes from the mall for my step sister. She would make me walk to school while she drove my sister and it's a lot of other things as well.
As long as you treat them equally and don't ever give favoritism to your child, then they will be more than happy if y'all had a child. I'm not saying don't spoil your own child but if you want to do something for your child just remember not to leave the others out.
Quoting Lorena:
They will be fine. The key however is to make everyone feel special and lived without showing any favoritism to any particular child.
Quoting happysnappyJ:Yes. This pregnancy wasn't really planned per se, but we weren't preventing it either. Why do you say brave woman?
Quoting dallas4nu:
Wow...were these all planned pregnancies? Your a brave women! Lol
Quoting happysnappyJ:My husband has two children from his first wife, two amazing little girls who are my entire world. We've been married 6 years, they're 13 and 9. We have two biological children, both boys, who are 3 and 9 months, and I am pregnant. It was a transition when I was pregnant and had our first son, but we made sure we didn't treat the new baby any differently, we still did the same things with the girls that we had done before, and it wasn't even that hard, because we loved all the children the same.
Does your DH/SO....
Who do you love more,your husband or kids
- destinyangl21
on Dec. 29, 2012 at 3:03 AM