Hi everybody! Thank you so much for admitting me entrance into your group. My name is Terri and I just joined (again) today. I have a 5 y.o. boy and am 45. My husband and I have done it all as far as marriage therapy throughout the years of being together, 6 yrs married in April, 9 total. We got pregnant as planned after we got married and have been staying together for the sake of our little guy. We also stay together because our Christian values (we are not maniacs, but do believe that God would want us to stay together for Luke). The truth is that, and this is going to sound terrible, normally I cannot stand to even be around my husband. He is a super nice person, and smart and our son adores him and vice versa. Wayne thinks that every time we go through a rough patch, it's going to just blow over. We are polar opposites - TOTAL ooposites. I married him because he is a good-hearted person as I know someone wilk ask this. Initially our troubles came about becase of his lack of desire for me and sex. That went on for the first 7 years of our being together. (Yes, it was an instant issue, but I always hoped that it would be addressed and fixed). The sex issue was addressed over years of therapy but was never really fixed. Now I don't care about the sex part. Now I just do not love him like I used too. I feel sorry for him because he really is a nice person and deserves to be loved by someone kind. I am not kind to him always because I am so frustrated and it leaks over into in front of our child. Our child has actually told us "Would you two stop it?" He will be 5 in a few days. How pitiful is that? Before anyone says "Can you not just fight in front of your kid?" Don't you think we have tried that, and have tried that? When a friend asks me that in person, I almost want to smack her. ;) It's like "Oh really?!?! Wow! I never of thought of NOT screaming at my husband in front of Luke!" "What a great idea!" ;) haha In all seriousness, is there anyone like me who stays with their husband for the sake of their young child? My husband and I are basically roommates anyway. He keeps thinking that things will get better, but this has been going on 4 years just about and if we could afford it financially, I would leave and get my own place for my child and me. I would love to see us get houses or apartments next to each other for the mental and physical health of our son. I am heart-broken because I don't want my child to grow up with parents who are unhappy and unloving to each other, no matter how hard they try. I am so sad.