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dont get it

Posted by on Jan. 1, 2013 at 11:42 AM
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I dont get why my husband watches porn over me - I make him sure i am willing to have sex. (when i asked he said he doesnt know)

but we want another baby but we wont get another one if he doesnt do it with me. but I know he watches porn as he left it on the computer. 


I am good enough good looking girl so i dont know why he doesnt want me...


but yesterday he had a cheek saying i am a slut and hore as i want sex al the time so i thought i have a look at the porn website I saw on the computer  and looked at the history and he watched 23 porns videos since begining october - that seems alot to me and he only gives me 1 a month - if i am lucky twice


am i being stupid? and overthinking it?

by on Jan. 1, 2013 at 11:42 AM
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justpeachy71904
by Silver Member on Jan. 1, 2013 at 11:49 AM
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Wow. I I am sorry.

I don't understand the whore part?

But I am sorry :( I would def. Talk to your husband and let him know the porn bothers you. He needs to respect that PERIOD. You are his wife and you come first.

I'm sorry
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kirbyland10
by on Jan. 1, 2013 at 11:55 AM

its ok it just hurts!

I dont know - think he said it cause I upset him! 

I did when I asked him why but he still doesnt listen to me and still does watch it. 

but thanks anyway... It just hurts but I guess I just have to live with it 

AnGLInterrupted
by Kendall on Jan. 1, 2013 at 11:57 AM

Sounds like he has an addiction if you ask me.  That needs to be addressed quickly or this is not going to change.  Good luck sweetie.  (hugs)

kirbyland10
by on Jan. 1, 2013 at 12:00 PM

but how can i get him admit it or talk about it... everytime I say something or bring it up he gets moody with me. and we get no where

happysnappyJ
by on Jan. 1, 2013 at 12:36 PM
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I would sit him down and have a serious chat. Porn is fine, but not when it starts to have a bad effect on the marriage. As for the name calling, that wouldn't fly here! 

JenniferW67
by Bronze Member on Jan. 1, 2013 at 12:57 PM

I've herad it can be an escape for men. Is he stressed out? There are other issues and I bet this is how he's choosing to dealing with it. How old is he?

TommyAbby
by Melissa on Jan. 1, 2013 at 1:00 PM
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When it comes to the point that he would rather have porn over you, you need to tell him enough is enough and you won't put up with it. 

Time for both of you to get help to fix this or you will live like this the rest of your life, grow to resent him, and ultimately be miserable..

kirbyland10
by on Jan. 1, 2013 at 1:00 PM

dont think so. he is 27

MagicTemptation
by Gold Member on Jan. 1, 2013 at 2:11 PM

How are things between ya'll outside the bedroom? Do yall fight? Do you "nag" him? Maybe he is feeling to stress to perform with you? Do you have a relaxing mood when you try to initiate?

If all that is fine, then I don't know. The only way to get to the bottom of it is talk with him.

kirbyland10
by on Jan. 1, 2013 at 2:13 PM

we fright quite a bit! sometime I'm the one who gets hurt!

I guess I do a bit of nagging... yeah it is relaxed.


maybe it is my fault!

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