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After christmas i got a bunch of picture frames on sale, none are christmas but since they were sold as christmas items they were real cheap. im doing a kind of collage on my living room wall and in the center has a sign that says "FAMILY, a journey to forever. Well one of the frames i got was a cute blue frame that has alittle airplane and says "the boys" In the frame I planned on putting a picture of my son and his soon to be new brother (from his father, my ex husband.) My SO freaked out and said that it wasnt right, because the kid is not ours. To me, the boy is my sons brother. Just because he is not technically MY family, he is my sons and will always be. To me that is family. Me and my exhusband and his wife are close, and I do see them as family.

My So said I might as well hang a picture of them on the wall. No, i would not, to me that would be a weird. As much as I see them as family, there not that kind of family. But I just dont see how a picture of my son and his brother is wrong. My So said its a reminder of my ex. i just thought that was silly, because if thats the case isnt my son a reminder? Of coarse Im going to rember my ex, we were married and we have a child together, but to me if the picture of the boys reminds me of anything it would be how blessed we all are. We were miserable while married, and have since both found someone new that is perfect for each of us, and we have both had more kids that we love. My ex and his wife were nothing but supportive when I gave birth to my daughter, they bought her things, and even help watch her for a minute if i need to run to the store while my SO is at work. I understand we aren't the normal, divorced family. Maybe THAT does make us weird. Sometimes i think my SO is just jelous because himand his ex (who he has a daughter with) have been divorced even longer and still cant even be in the same room together....Anyways (back on topic) I just dont see the issue, the wall isnt just of our kids. Its all kinds of family and friends. So why is my sons brother not allowed?

Am I crazy, is it weird for me to do that?  

by on Jan. 1, 2013 at 9:00 PM
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my4loves4
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 4:48 PM


Quoting Anryan:

i don't see an issue with it but if he does, and it were me, then i would put a pic of him and your son in "the boys" frame...you son could always have a pic of his brother in his room.  Just my 2 cents.


I suggested that after he got mad about the other idea but he was already so mad about my first idea he didnt care.

my4loves4
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 4:49 PM


Quoting ElizabethGracie:

Is it a half sibling or step sibling?


half.

OHgirlinCA
by Silver Member on Jan. 2, 2013 at 4:51 PM

 Why not put that frame up in your son's room?  I can see why your SO wouldn't want it in a common area of the house.  If my ex had a baby I certainly wouldn't be putting the baby's picture up on my wall.  I wouldn't have an issue if my son or daughter wanted a picture in their rooms though.

earthangel1967
by YVONNE on Jan. 2, 2013 at 6:26 PM

 If it bothered my husband that much since he has to live there too and its his wall too and I wouldnt want him to feel stressed and uncomfortable in his own home out of respect to his feelings even if I didnt agree with them I wouldnt put the picture of the brother on my living room wall, if anything I would put a picture of him in my son's room and if that bothered him too then I would make my son a little photo album to keep in his room and put his brothers picture in there.

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Playitagain
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 7:20 PM

On one hand, I can see where he is coming from because my In-laws still have a picture of Dhs ex Girlfriend up in there house. Even though we have her biological daughter (not Dhs biologically), we adopted her after the ex disappeared then abuse and neglect came out.

However, I think if you get along with them and its not a picture of your ex and you on your wedding day (again, I have a friend whose now Ex- inlaws did that one, and on the mantel no less LOL). I think its sweet, but at the same time if it bothers him then maybe you shouldn't. Its such a strange line, because these are still pretty new situations as far as if its acceptable. 

CameronsMommy23
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 8:44 PM
Brothers are brothers, half or whole!!..... If it bothers him that bad put that pic in your son's room maybe.
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Deelmo01
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 10:28 PM

I kinda of agree with your SO.  Not quite 100% but mostly.  Perhaps you could put the picture in your son's room.  The other child may be your son's HALF brother, but he's not your son or your SO's son.  Compromise, it's always better to give in half way than have a big arguement that could cause lasting bitterness.

BUFFIE.the.BODY
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 11:24 PM
Weird
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BUFFIE.the.BODY
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 11:25 PM
I agree

Quoting Deelmo01:

I kinda of agree with your SO.  Not quite 100% but mostly.  Perhaps you could put the picture in your son's room.  The other child may be your son's HALF brother, but he's not your son or your SO's son.  Compromise, it's always better to give in half way than have a big arguement that could cause lasting bitterness.

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lageise
by on Jan. 4, 2013 at 4:45 PM

Hang the photo.  They are family. 

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