a little history on the whole thing....he talked to her before we we're together only on the phone though an met her four times in person... when we got together (I was 16 he was 19) an I found out about her I didn't like it. let's face it when your a teenager every female is a threat to you. any who we got In a argument about it an he said he would never talk to her again... four yrs later all of a sudden she texts him out the blue an they start chatting it up. he doesn't keep it a secret from me that they are texting back an fourth an I wasn't ok with it but I was dealing with it because I don't think he would cheat on me or anything like that. well he in invites her to stay a weekend withwith us without asking me first. I've oonly met the girl once (before me an dh started dating) an I thought we were going there for dh an the girl to meet up am have a date.. so it was a lititle awkward because I felt like the third wheel but they were just friends. me personally I find it awkward an weird for him to be trying to rekindle thAt friendship when he said he would never talk to her again. and also he has no male friends what so ever. when We started getting our lives together all his friends disappeared be cause he wasn't supporting there bad habits any more to say the least an he hasn't made anymore friends since then.I guess I just need other female advice on how to handle this or what to do.... I don't trust any female except my bestie. all the stories I've read on here make me very weary of females..... let me know how you would handle this and what you would dodo.thanks in advance.
I think him inviting her to stay without asking would bug me more than anything. But just him having a female friend, not so much. My so has a female friend, they've been friends since 1st grade, and they talk often. But, they also didn't have 4 years of no communication, then suddenly started again, so that is a bit odd. I'd just talk to him, maybe get to know her, see how close they are. You don't want to cause an issue if they really are close friends, I mean, do you know why she suddenly just started up again with talking to him? And why would you not trust your bestie? Isn't that sort of a requirement, to trust your bestie, in order to HAVE a bestie?
that dose not sound like something normal if he agreed to stop talking to her it was for a reason he had feelings for her and by them getting back to know each other again is a very bad idea sounds to me like she has another chance to make him fall for her don't let her stay with you and don't let your man fall for her .
My husband and I arent comfortable with our mates having opposite sex friends. Its one thing to say hi when you bump into someone but we dont hang out, call or text opposite sex friends out of respect. That is just our way and it works for us. you should work with your husband to find what works for you guys as a couple.
Its always gotta be about him. kinda long
- expectnanother
on Jan. 2, 2013 at 2:26 AM