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my bf likes to watch porn...alot...is it me?

Posted by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 1:50 AM
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My bf likes to watch porn online. He spends hours on the computer. It bugs me sometimes. Is it normal? I feel like he isn't attracted to me. Or I'm not sexy or he has fantasies. He don't watch porn everyday but about 3 times a week. I asked him about the porn and he says he likes it and always watched it... Even before he met me. Em I being paranoid?
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pittymama
by Silver Member on Jan. 6, 2013 at 1:57 AM

no experience here. porn doesn't bother me but everyone is different! if it bothers you, talk to him! ask him if he's attracted to you!

do you have an active sex life? 

supermomz25
by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 1:59 AM

porn doesn't bother me and I like to watch it with my husband. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

polkaspots
by Bronze Member on Jan. 6, 2013 at 2:00 AM
It has nothing to do with you. The guy likes porn. My husband watches porn and it doesn't affect our sex life at all.
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barneysaid
by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 2:22 AM
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Our sex life is alright most of the time. Maybe I should give it a try and watch porn with him.
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ryryab
by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 2:24 AM

I don't have a problem with porn, I even like to watch it with him sometimes, though that's rare, but then, so is him watching it. If it effects your sex life, it's a problem, otherwise, I'd let it go. 

rstuart66
by Member on Jan. 6, 2013 at 11:21 AM
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Consider porn your friend.  Do you really want to help your guy get off 4 plus times a day?  That is how many times a day my SO says he masterbates.  I have enough work to do between house work and my 4 year old daughter.

AlannaMaria
by Alanna on Jan. 6, 2013 at 12:27 PM
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I wouldn't like it if my DH watched it all the time.
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Jacylove
by Member on Jan. 6, 2013 at 12:41 PM
It kinda bothered me. I just told him if he going to watch it to keep it to himself. Like not to let me find out & it's not you men are just like that. We will never know why they are perverts they just are like that
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Serenity7
by Platinum Member on Jan. 6, 2013 at 1:15 PM

 Your bf watching porn has nothing to do with you. You can talk to him about it and see if he wants to get help for his problem

MomofSCMJJA
by on Jan. 6, 2013 at 3:22 PM
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Honey, I am going to offer some advice from the land of BeenThereDoneThat:  RUN!

1)  Someone who habitually watches porn is someone who considers sex a purely physical act.  It is not about emotion or sharing or intimacy.  It is about physical pleasure.  Period.

2)  Someone who watches porn is going to be bored by "normal" sex.  Sure it's great to have a little spice in your sex life, but if you spice things up too heavily, you will lose your ability to enjoy the natural "flavor" of things.  You will get trapped into constantly trying to come up with something new and different and exciting.  If you cannot provide that (or are not willing to participate in some more extreme things he might eventually ask), he will eventually start looking elsewhere for that excitement.

3)  If you already are bothered by it, imagine how bothered you will be when he turns away from you in bed and goes to the computer because it's easy to be supersexy for the average 3 1/2 munute sex scene on the videos.  He will expect you to respond on cue, immediately with almost no foreplay, and if you don't he will assume that there is something wrong with you because "other women can do it".

4)  The fact that he does it right in front of you means thast he really doesn't care if it bothers you.  He wants what he wants and you will just have to get used to it.

5)  Once he has "won" you, he will not have any need to keeping working on the relationship.  It is so much easier to just click on a link to get sexual satisfaction.

6)  He has made it clear that sex is about HIM and what HE wants.

Paranoid?  No.  You are not.

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