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Hi: I'm just curious if I'm alone in how I think our roles as husband/wife, mom/dad should be.
My husband works outside the home 50+ hours a week, I work outside the home 12 hours a week, we have two children one in 1st grade and one in 3rd.
The only thing that my husband feels he should contribute to our home life is doing the laundry every 2 weeks, only clothes and towels, no bedding.
He feels that because he makes most of the $$ that I should be responsible for all the cleaning, cooking and child rearing including homework, bedtime and activities. Also anything to do with the house, paying bills, taking out the trash, recycling, any maintenance, cleaning the garage, decorating for holidays, caring for our 4 pets, including walks and pooper scooping, jumping the cars that don't want to start (he doesn't know how). I could go on but you get the idea.
He did shovel snow this last time we got it but ONLY around his vehicle and a little behind mine, we have 15 inches of snow and it's still there 2 weeks later. So there is only one lane that we can go in/out of our driveway and only 1 spot to park outside. ONLY because I sholved the rest at the road so my car wouldn't bottom out. Usually I shovel the whole driveway, our walkway and a path for our dogs, but this time he said he would do the driveway, even though he didn't actually do the whole thing.
Yet before we had children we both worked outside the home, I made more $ and I still was responsible for everything including laundry. His rational that he makes more $$ so he doesn't have to lift a finger is hypocritical.
Help! I just want to know that there are other strong women out there that believe we are more then this. We are in counseling at my request and his annoyance. I'm so very close to filing for divorce but I hestate because we have two kiddos, they are the only thing we've done right in 16 years together.