This hasnt applied to us in a few years, but when were were younger and first starting out, hell yeah it did.
We met at 19 and were married at 19. There was still quite a bit of growing up and growing together that needed to be done.
OK so onto the curfew.
I have always had 100% trust in dh, he has never given me a reason not to (still hasnt 7 years later). So when he would go out with his "boys" a few nights a week I didnt care where he was or who he was with. I just had 1 rule. Be respectful of your wife and new mother and come home at a decent hour. No more partying all night and walking in the door at 9am the next day still drunk from the night before.
My curfew was 12
or 1am on a weekday and no later then 3am on a weekend. And dh - even
though he messed up once or twice - for the most part respected this.
After we grew up a little and grew together, the friends and "chilling"
in the streets and getting drunk lost their appeal for him. Now 7 years
later dh wouldnt dare come home after 10pm unless he was working a late
job. Is just something that you dont do. He has a family and coming home
late is just disrespectful. Plus we are married, we dont go out as
single people any more. We never really did in the first place. He only
started after we had the baby, I needed to be home. Now that the "baby"
is 5, we are back to being partners in crime together, but not just us,
as a family.
So one of my newly married girlfriends is having a similar problem with her new dh. They do not have kids yet, but they have been married for about a year. She said it was fine in the beginning but no matter how much she bitches he still wont come home at a decent hour. Mind you they are our age now - late 20's. I told her that I gave my dh a curfew when we first got married and had the baby. (Before our ds, Dh never went any where with out me, if he was out partying all night i was right along side him. We were partners in crime, until I had ds, then I was home and dh took a little time to get out of his chilling phase.) And it worked for us. She looked at me like I was nuts. And said she could never put rules on her husband like that.
I think 1am on a week day/3am on a weekend is reasonable and hardly asking too much of a husband. (yes yes, you shouldnt have to do this if they are your dh they should already know and respect, blah blah blah.. All men, especially when your married young need a bit of training. You grow together as a couple - so all of "you" can shove it - "you" know who "you" are)
Have you ever? or Would you ever put a curfew on your dh if he was one to stay out late?
DH doesnt go out or do anythung like that. IF he did I would ASK him to be home by a certain time.. Its not a rule... But if your not home at a decent hour dont be shocked if im mad at you for a few days & get an attitude the next time you wanna go out.
An most importantly he respects me enough not to stay out till all hrs or do shady thing
I feel if you need to put limits in your relationship then you have bigger fish to fry then when he comes home an you.obviously dont trust him
Never. No need to. He is a grown man. Plus, as long as we have been together he has never been disrespectul enough to go out untl all hous of the night. And when he does go out I always knew exactly where he was what he was doing and who he was with. And he ha never come home drunk.
In fact, he is going out tonight. To the movies. With my sister. LOL! That's about the extnt of his social life these days! HAHA
DF doesn't go out enough without me for that to be an issue. Mind you, we are 39, not some youngins like you guys. I know that sounds funny, but it won't in ten years- believe me. LOL
I'm 37 and DH is about to be 36! :)
Quoting opal10161973:DF doesn't go out enough without me for that to be an issue. Mind you, we are 39, not some youngins like you guys. I know that sounds funny, but it won't in ten years- believe me. LOL
No, that just wouldnt work for us. We have RESPECT for one another. We wouldnt treat one another like children
You know , but does your partner?
- gabeybaby07
on Jan. 17, 2013 at 2:47 PM