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Would this make you angry?

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Yesterday was one of my dh three days off.  On his days off from work all I ask of him is to please wash the dishes so that when I come home to cook dinner I can start with a clean kitchen.  So I came home from 9 hours of dealing with rude customers at work and immediately started dinner while listening to dd's talk about their day at school and keeping our siberian huskies from wandering into the kitchen :D.  Once that was finished I served everyone, ate and immediately ran down to basement to start laundry.  While laundry was going I got the dinner dishes washed and started to help my dd's with their homework.  Once that was done I ran the vacuum in the living (think lots of hair left by two large dogs) and dusted and ran down to the basement to switch laundry around and fold and put away.  On my way back up my dh glanced up from his big comfy recliner where he was flipping through the channels and asked "Are you planning on getting the kids in the shower any time soon?"  I was instantly irritated. I knew he was asking because he wanted to be uhhh..intimate, after the kids went to bed. But I felt like he was saying I wasn't working hard enough or something.  I worked a 9 hour day while he had the day off and he still sat in his chair while I did everything and then wanted to tell me to move faster so he could "get some".  Would this make anyone else angry?  Or am I making too much of it?

by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:56 AM
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la_bella_vita
by Bella on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:15 PM

 I would have been annoyed and I would not have had sex with him.

adamswife08
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:54 PM

I wouldnt be angry, but it would get on my nerves

renae87
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:55 PM

I know the feelings, just talk to him about helping out more around the house especially on his dayoff, so that you won't be so exhausted and then you can meet his expectations.

mamanay041010
by Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 4:57 AM

Wouldn't have made me angry because I would have simply said, "I have worked nearly ten hours today I am still doing house work get up and help"  or I would have just looked at him like he was crazy and he would realize "she wants me to do something, but honestly my hubby ,might be lazier than me but  if he's home and he sees me working around the house he will say baby sit you've done enough and he takes over or tries cause sometimes I like to finish certain things, even if he worked that day

Lindalou907
by Bronze Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 5:02 AM

Oh yeah, I'd be pissed.

drivenleonian
by Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 5:22 AM
My SO and I work together and are starting another business from home. He helps me around the house and doesn't even live with me yet. I have a 16 y/o son who is making credits up at school and helps me with my 10 y/o dd. I'm disabled and can't always handle being active for long periods. It may be a good idea to speak with dh to ask if he will help you out more. It takes both parents to run a household. If you were a SAHM, it might make a small difference.
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tallmom1
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 10:13 AM

yes probly would irritate me too

rstuart66
by Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 11:05 AM

I would be hacked as well.  Talk to him a time when your not mad and see if he can help you with some of the house work.

37momofthree
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 1:27 PM

 


Quoting catrig:

If you are both working why is he doing more?

Umm...what in my post made it seem as though he does more?????  All i ask is for him to wash the dishes.  He has three days off to my two and I do ALL the housework, laundry, taking care of kids, grocery shopping and in the summertime even most of the yard work. 

 

catrig
by Bronze Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 2:18 PM
I meant why isn't he doing more.


Quoting 37momofthree:

 




Quoting catrig:


If you are both working why is he doing more?


Umm...what in my post made it seem as though he does more?????  All i ask is for him to wash the dishes.  He has three days off to my two and I do ALL the housework, laundry, taking care of kids, grocery shopping and in the summertime even most of the yard work. 


 


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