advice from ppl who have been in this situation only--a bit long but juicy worth a few minutes to read
infedility
will state i am 4 mo pregnant with his child we are not married but have been dating 3 yrs i wrote this to his ex wife and his childs mother [we are on friend terms]
tell me what you think about my situation other than its real shtty and please dont tell me to leave him thats obvious
ALSO THIS IS THE FIRST I KNOW OF HIM CHEATING
BF has hurt me.. u may not find this as a shock but he cheated on me with a girl from his past .. about 2 weeks ago i am torn hurt beyond and i just dont know what to do.. i love this fool so much but he cheated i know our relationship really is not your biz but i feel like u can give me insight and help me make the decision to leave him permanently or what
HER REPLY
FIRST OF ALL, I WANNA SAY I KNOW EXACTLY HOW U FEEL. HE HURT ME TOO AND HE'S THE ONLY MAN THAT HAS HURT ME. THE THINGS IS THAT YA"LL HAVE A BABY TOGETHER AND I DONT THINK U SHOULD BE SELFISH IN YA DECISION MAKING. P TENDS TO BE A BETTER FATHER WHEN HE'S IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS BABY MOTHER. HE MISSED OUT ON A LOT OF YEARS WHEN IT COMES TO HIS SON. IM NOT SURE HOW LONG HE HAS BEEN CHEATING ON U WITH HER OR IF ITS SOMETHING NEW. MY FIRST INSTINCT IS TO TELL U TO LEAVE HIS ASS. BUT WHEN I THINK ABOUT WHAT I'VE BEEN THRU. I THINK THAT MAYBE U SHOULD TALK TO P AND GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE IF HE'S WILLING TO CHANGE. BUT IT'S LIKE UR TAKING A CHANCE ON GETTING HURT AGAIN.
IT'S A DAMN SHAME HE'S DOING THE SAME SHIT AND WITH HER. HER ASS GOT LIKE 4 KIDS.
ALso does it sound like she regrets not giving him a chance
It is your life. You need to decide what is best for you. Some people change some people don't change. Its a risk you take
THIS for SURE
Quoting nicole6870:
Sorry. No real advice. If he's done it twice...well that ought to tell you enough.
I am so sorry for what ur going thru and i know how u feel.i suggest u give a try or chance n still hold on yet n pray to God for what u been thru and i hope u have peace in ur mind as God is the only answer to our prayers.
This. It is hard to read because of how you write/type. My lord.
Quoting bcauseimthemom:Holy cow... release the caps lock and type in English. What the hell are you trying to say?
2ninos4me her name was mentioned but i removed it..
and due9 then dont read it and move on...
thanks everyone some new info came up and although u may not agree with how i choose to handle it just so u know from here on out i will only invest what i can afford to lose emotionally physically and financially. we need to talk and currently taking time away from each other.
ahh so u wanna know the new info, this girl is a man stealer and has lied about this kind of stuff b4, her whole goal was to make it as if he were in order to steal him away. this is not from him b/c he could simply make it up to lie to me. either i need not stressed b/c im pregnant so i guess i just dont really care and dont wanna play foolish games
Hm.. Kinda tough. My exh cheated on me, I gave him a chance, exactly one year later he did it again!! Now we are divorced! But happily!! I am engaged and better off. It really is your call on what to do about this situation. I told myself I would never put myself through something like that again.
And it does kind of sound like she wishes she gave him a second chance. But if he cheated on her, then you, I wouldn't give him a second chance... Just my opinion.
Why on earth would you write the ex? That's baffling to me.
My DH cheated once. I forgave him. He had to do a lot of crap for me to forgive him though. If he ever did it again I'd drop him in a heart beat.
You are worth a lot more than you are selling yourself for. Go back to school. Learn to write (I'm sorry your writing is really awful. I makes me sad to read.)
am i the only want that feels like this?.?
- bethany0199
on Jan. 18, 2013 at 6:43 PM