See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
So I am new in this group...
I wanted to ask if anyone felt this way.
My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. Have had children for 8 of them. He is a great guy and great father. I realize though that we have different ideas of what we want for the future. It is on opposite ends of the specturm. We want totally different things. I'm not sure how to approach this. I don't think either of us want to compromise too much on it either. I know that obviously I need to bring it up. I know he doesn't see a problem at the moment, only I do.
I know a lot if my own fault for not talking about it sooner. I tried to convince myself that maybe I wanted the same thing, that I would be okay with it. I know I am not. I have told I am not. But he still thinks we will end up where he wants even though he knows I don't want to be there, I don't want our kids to be there (basically he wants to be in his hometown which is tiny, middle of nowhere type place that has changed a lot since he grew up and I want to travel and see a lot more of the world).
I am worried because a lot of times when I do bring it up he doesn't actually "hear" me. Any suggestions on how to bring this up or talk about this?