My BF, His Ex and their DD's Birthday... What should I tell him?
Ok Last night my Bfs ex texted him that their (gonna be 3 y/o) DD's birthday is right around the corner (in April) and that shes gonna book this place (I think its a bouncy house place) to have the party (I was looking at them yesterday for my 6 y/o and theyre way too expensive $175-$275 just for the party) and that he needs to get together a list of his family members to invite... Well my BF feels/has felt that since they are no longer together and can hardly even be civil that holidays and birthdays at this time should be celebrated seperately. (She tried to include herself in his families xmas when it was his holiday to have the lil girl and he DID NOT take that very well.) I think she has every right to invite who ever to the party, Its not a big deal... He didnt respond to her just asked me what he should do and I told him she can invite anyone she wants Its her party... Well a little while after that she sends another text saying that she just did the calculations and his 1/2 of the expenses would come to just under $300... He FLIPPED... We cannot afford to drop $300 like that and neither can she... Shes not to an age that a party is gonna be a big deal, We ARE going to celebrate her bday at home with a party with his family since we are expecting a baby the week before his DD's bday/party. He is a very level headed man and looks at things rationally but he kind of comes unglued when it comes to dealing with her. There is no possible way that we could drop that kind of money even if he was ok with sharing her birthday... He doesnt wanna "attack" her or fight with her and I can tell hes not too sure how hes gonna go about it, So what should I tell him?