I have been talking to a wonderful man for the past four months. He and I went to high school together, but lost touch. Fourteen years later, he found me on facebook and the rest is history. We talk just about every day and night. It's going just the way I would want any kind of relationship to start out, slowly. He is a gentleman. We don't chat about anything sexual, which is great. I never did feel comfortable with those kinds of chats (you know, start talking to someone, you think they're great, and then they pull out the "I want to have sex with you before we really get to know each other, card). Our kids have not met. One because he just went through a divorce, and I won't let my son meet anyone I would like to date (right away). Perfect, right? Sadly no.
Here's the problem. In a few months, my family (mother, grandmother, me and my son) and I are moving to Georgia. He and I talked about my son and me moving back to my hometown up by St. Louis , which is where he and his family still live. But my mother and grandmother cannot afford to live up there. Plus I couldn't stand the thought of my son growing up without my mom around, especially since he just lost his grandfather almost 2 years ago. With my friend, he has joint legal custody of his children, who are still young, so he doesn't want to move anywhere far away. I completely understand that, and would never ask him to choose. So we both have things we aren't willing to compromise on, with good reason.
It is extremely selfish for us to still talk the way we do, but it is so hard for me to just let go. I know it's not going to go anywhere, but I can't just give him up yet. To be honest, I've never been in this situation before and I don't even know the first thing to say to him. Of course I want us to be friends, but we're both going to get hurt and that is something I don't want to happen (not that I can avoid it).
Please knock some sense into me! lol.