Every time he starts you need to tell him to quit acting like a jerk.
Tell him to go for a run, punch a punching bag, throw darts, work out. Do something so you(he) doesn't take his frustration out on his family.
Also, make dinner time an electronic free time.
Quoting tialee925:Seems like he has alot of stuff on his mind. He may need to hang out with his friends for a couple of hours to clear his head. You just make sure your there for the kids right now...Hope it all gets better for you guys...
You never want to add fire to the flame. The kids don't need to be around 2 stressed out parents. Someone has to remain the more comforting adult..
Quoting edelweiss23:
Sounds like you should have stepped in and told him to knock it off to start with.
Every time he starts you need to tell him to quit acting like a jerk.
Tell him to go for a run, punch a punching bag, throw darts, work out. Do something so you(he) doesn't take his frustration out on his family.
Also, make dinner time an electronic free time.
I smell something rotten in Denmark. Child abuse (intimdation/yellin/verbal, emotional) is NEVER okay.
1. No texting during meals unless it's an emergency situation. (I would be more irritated about this than anything else. Meal time = family time. If you need to do business we'll wait. If it's social your friends will wait.)
2. Keep your hands and utensils in your own bowl. This is how we teach kids to EAT, not play with food. Additionally we have the rules of you will keep your butt in your chair and you will say excuse me before you interrupt an adult or to be noticed by an adult that is occupied.
I would not tolerate my daughter (3yo) putting her hands or her utensils in my face or my spouses face while we are eating - or at all. This is not to say that she doesn't try, but she is corrected and is told to sit on her bottom, use her fork and eat her food. Your kids are old enough to eat a meal politely. What was cute at 2 is just flat out irritating at 5. Having a fit for it is unacceptable.
My 3yo will occasionally kick up a fuss about being told that the dinner table is for sitting and eating, and if she does she is removed from the table and yes. She will cry. It's not the end of the world. Maybe you can practice dinner manners during lunch to get the kids used to sitting.
It sounds like your kids are setting the rules for your household, not you. In our house, once it's family television time, the kids shows get changed. When dad gets home, he gets the TV for a few hours. The kids have had it all day. If we are watching or talking about something inappropriate the kids are told to go play or leave the room as well.
There is no negotiating or reationalizing that the kids don't want their shows changed. Dad is an adult and has the right to come home and watch some TV at the end of the day.
It's time to adult proof your house.
It also sounds like your man has different expectations and desires for the kids behavior than you do.
Telling a child to go to their room and raising your voice when your child refuses to do as they are told is not abuse. By stepping in between him and being firm with his children you are teaching the kids that dad is being mean, rather than dad means what he is saying, what you did was wrong and I back him.
You all are setting yourselves up for divide and conquer tactics from your kids later on. Get on the same team. Toughen up on those kids mom.
Exactly!!! I couldn't agree more! This is how we run our house as well....Very well said!!!
Quoting Kes1s:1. No texting during meals unless it's an emergency situation. (I would be more irritated about this than anything else. Meal time = family time. If you need to do business we'll wait. If it's social your friends will wait.)
2. Keep your hands and utensils in your own bowl. This is how we teach kids to EAT, not play with food. Additionally we have the rules of you will keep your butt in your chair and you will say excuse me before you interrupt an adult or to be noticed by an adult that is occupied.
I would not tolerate my daughter (3yo) putting her hands or her utensils in my face or my spouses face while we are eating - or at all. This is not to say that she doesn't try, but she is corrected and is told to sit on her bottom, use her fork and eat her food. Your kids are old enough to eat a meal politely. What was cute at 2 is just flat out irritating at 5. Having a fit for it is unacceptable.
My 3yo will occasionally kick up a fuss about being told that the dinner table is for sitting and eating, and if she does she is removed from the table and yes. She will cry. It's not the end of the world. Maybe you can practice dinner manners during lunch to get the kids used to sitting.
It sounds like your kids are setting the rules for your household, not you. In our house, once it's family television time, the kids shows get changed. When dad gets home, he gets the TV for a few hours. The kids have had it all day. If we are watching or talking about something inappropriate the kids are told to go play or leave the room as well.
There is no negotiating or reationalizing that the kids don't want their shows changed. Dad is an adult and has the right to come home and watch some TV at the end of the day.
It's time to adult proof your house.
It also sounds like your man has different expectations and desires for the kids behavior than you do.
Telling a child to go to their room and raising your voice when your child refuses to do as they are told is not abuse. By stepping in between him and being firm with his children you are teaching the kids that dad is being mean, rather than dad means what he is saying, what you did was wrong and I back him.
You all are setting yourselves up for divide and conquer tactics from your kids later on. Get on the same team. Toughen up on those kids mom.
When you met your dh/so?
- Kageegirl
on Jan. 24, 2013 at 7:54 AM