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My husband confessed to me that he cheated on me with a prostitute today....

Posted by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 9:46 PM
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I still have not fully absorbed the fact that my husband cheated on me... and I'm feeling very confused, hurt, embarrassed, and angry....

This is the first time he has cheated on me.. it was a random girl, and he told me he will be getting tested before he even thinks about touching me.

Apparently something had happened between him and his parents that made him think that his only two options were to either kill himself, or get a hotel room and call a prostitute so he can release tension..     He claims that he feels awful, and that he wants to go to therapy because he obviously has some issues that need to be resolved...

But it's not just the fact that he cheated... He also abuses drugs and likes to gamble... It seems like he feels the need to take everything to the extreme, and he is VERY impulsive... Sometimes I feel as though I'm living with a child and not a 28 yr old man.

I really would like to work it out, and we've never explored therapy, so I'd like to see if that will help the situation.. but right now I'm just in shock, and need some support and advice...



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ttc1rainbow
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 9:52 PM
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Wow, I'm so sorry mama! Wish I had some advice, sadly I do not. I just wish you the very best with this!! 

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Ang9403
by Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 9:56 PM
I'm sorry
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IMaBABYsMaMa
by Bronze Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:02 PM
I'm so sorry. Did he just come right out and tell you? Seems he may have left out some details but regardless I'm sure you are heartbroken. Me and my dh have been in counseling a month and has helped us a lot in just a short time. My dh has struggled with alcohol as well. He calls it, dh that is, addictive tendencies. Our problems aren't gone but we are learning how to communicate better and deal with some issues dh has. Good luck to you.
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2lilmamas
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:06 PM
Im not sure if his reasons justify his actions but he needs some serious therapy..
BJWeinkauf
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:13 PM


Quoting IMaBABYsMaMa:

I'm so sorry. Did he just come right out and tell you? Seems he may have left out some details but regardless I'm sure you are heartbroken. Me and my dh have been in counseling a month and has helped us a lot in just a short time. My dh has struggled with alcohol as well. He calls it, dh that is, addictive tendencies. Our problems aren't gone but we are learning how to communicate better and deal with some issues dh has. Good luck to you.

Yeh, I was babysitting for a friend and had been trying to reach him all day... Finally he came to the house I was sitting at and one of the first things he says is "I did something really awful..." And at first I didn't get mad.. didn't cry... just told him that we should seek help... He left about three hours ago and it is starting to sink in. I can't even find the words for how I feel.. but I know I am feeling physically ill, along with all of the mental anguish..


I just really NEVER thought I would ever hear this type of confession from my husband... and then he actually had the balls to tell me that it was partially my fault for showing him the site! A girlfriend of mine had shown me the site backpage.com and we stumbled upon the local escort ads and were just pretty much shocked that it was even legal and legit, because it was pretty obvious that she was exchanging sexual favors for money... erm I mean "donations", according to them...But anyway, I guess maybe it was stupid to show my husband the site, but I honestly never thought there'd be a chance in hell that he would call one of them up!

It just makes me sick..

Hottmomma607
by Trica on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:39 PM
I agree! Death or sex with an prostitute?? He needs help! ASAP! Especially if he was thinking of killing himself?

Quoting 2lilmamas:

Im not sure if his reasons justify his actions but he needs some serious therapy..
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Hottmomma607
by Trica on Jan. 25, 2013 at 10:40 PM
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BJWeinkauf
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:10 PM


Quoting Hottmomma607:

I agree! Death or sex with an prostitute?? He needs help! ASAP! Especially if he was thinking of killing himself?

Quoting 2lilmamas:

Im not sure if his reasons justify his actions but he needs some serious therapy..

Those were his actual words... and the whole arguement with his parents was because his parents thought he was on drugs the previous evening at his mother's birthday dinner. They didn't believe him when he said that he was just drinking and hadn't taken anything, so that sparked his anger.. and as I said, he is really impulsive. While we've been together he has attempted suicide twice, and threatened suicide countless times. However, since he has been prescribed to a mood stabilizer and an anti-depressant we haven't had any problems..So I was pretty shocked to hear him say that he was considering suicide as an option..

Hottmomma607
by Trica on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:20 PM
Wow that's unfortunate! I'm sorry!

Quoting BJWeinkauf:


Quoting Hottmomma607:

I agree! Death or sex with an prostitute?? He needs help! ASAP! Especially if he was thinking of killing himself?



Quoting 2lilmamas:

Im not sure if his reasons justify his actions but he needs some serious therapy..

Those were his actual words... and the whole arguement with his parents was because his parents thought he was on drugs the previous evening at his mother's birthday dinner. They didn't believe him when he said that he was just drinking and hadn't taken anything, so that sparked his anger.. and as I said, he is really impulsive. While we've been together he has attempted suicide twice, and threatened suicide countless times. However, since he has been prescribed to a mood stabilizer and an anti-depressant we haven't had any problems..So I was pretty shocked to hear him say that he was considering suicide as an option..

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AnGLInterrupted
by Kendall on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:27 PM

I agree with this.  I'm sorry momma, that you'er going through this.  If it were me, I'd be gone.  The cheating alone, I'd be gone..  but everything else on top of it..  SMH.  I wish you luck.

Quoting 2lilmamas:

Im not sure if his reasons justify his actions but he needs some serious therapy..


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