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Sex question... TMI!

Posted by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 5:12 AM
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Okay.. So this is a little aggravating but I need advice and DH needs to calm down...

For the past week or so, DH and I have been having sex about 2 times a day..

Tonight, we watched porn and fooled around for like 4 hours and he was rock hard.. lmao.. So, we went to the bed room and fooled around some more and he stayed hard but right before we went to have sex, he went soft.. It's happened a couple of other times this week too and he is freaking out! He thinks he has ED or something and I think he is just over analyzing things and that everything will be alright...

But then the thought entered my head, "Maybe it's me!"... Idk what to say to him.. So I have come to my trusty girls here...

I know I'm randomly jumping all over the place but I'm a little worried that I am the issue here.. He was able to get hard again tonight but he blew as soon as he got hard! I wasn't able to get off lastnight or tonight but mine is because I hold it in until sex and then once he goes soft, it's a buzz kill for me... =(

Just give me some ideas of what could be going on...

by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 5:12 AM
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Lindalou907
by Bronze Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 5:28 AM
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I'm actually a little jealous, it sounds to me like you have an awesome sex life!

Alwayscheerful
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 5:39 AM
My DH can stay a whole month without touching me!


Quoting Lindalou907:

I'm actually a little jealous, it sounds to me like you have an awesome sex life!


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Lindalou907
by Bronze Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 5:43 AM

So you go a month and then have a lot of sex? I'm trying to remember what was normal for us when I was younger, I'm 54 now and we go several weeks sometimes.



Quoting Alwayscheerful:

My DH can stay a whole month without touching me!


Quoting Lindalou907:

I'm actually a little jealous, it sounds to me like you have an awesome sex life!




Queen_Bree
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 7:12 AM
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Performace anxiety maybe... Sometimes guys get so excited but when it comes time to do the "deed" they crumble. 

brannew
by Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 2:33 PM
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Geez, twice a  day huh?  I'm lucky if I get laid twice a month.  I'm at my sexual peak and the most sexually frustrated I've ever been in my life. 

Maybe if you only do it once a day, he will be more explosive.  I don't know.....

steffielou_who
by Silver Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:23 PM
Thanks ladies! I think it's in his head too! And google is bad! Never look on google for symptoms! He now thinks he has prostate cancer! Lol.. Hopefully we can get things going tonight..
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raegan1221
by Silver Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:29 PM

 I agree with a pp that maybe doing it once a day rather than twice might help..Idk though. Good luck!

AimSnapHolz
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:33 PM

My SO can have a similar problem. He can be ready to go, and even in the middle of sex, and just... lose it. I can almost 100% promise that it isn't you. Being horny and having the right amount of constant blood flow to keep an erection are NOT the same thing.

He may have ED, or he may just be thinking too hard about the couple times when he DID lose his erection, and that makes him nervous so he loses it again. If it happens again, try affirming that it's okay, everyone has this problem every now and then (trust me, everyone!), and that you're perfectly satisfied to take a break for the night (even if you're not - making him feel worse will not help).

If he's really concerned, he can go to the doctor, but I would first try and build him up mentally and see if that helps. It has helped a lot with SO's issues.

PartyGalAnne
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:41 PM

So he had a hard on for 4 hours and you didn't put it to use?

No wonder it went down! The poor guy was tired!

He does not have ED. He does not have difficulty getting or maintaining an erection.

You two need to get your timing straight. If he's hard, USE IT.

Now the issue with it going down when you're about to have sex- Are you pregnant? Is he afraid of GETTING you pregnant?

And girl you need to get off. Play with yourself in front of him Give him a show starring YOU , not porn.



steffielou_who
by Silver Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 3:50 PM

lmao... It was only hard for 4 hours because he didn't want to do it yet and wanted to play around.. Believe me, I wanted to use it!  

Thanks so much, girls.. You all are so much help!

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