In your honest opinion how do you feel about open marriage? There was a episode on Ricki Lake the other day and I'm still amazed. *On the open marriage aspect I think I should let it be known that these people were already married for about 12 yrs before they started having a open marriage. At that point they had 3 kids and didn't want to get divorced.*
Also would any of you swing with your husband or have a threesome?
I know these are personal questions so if you don't feel comfortable answering feel free to inbox me.
I was in an open relationship years ago with a long-time boyfriend and it worked fairly well. We eventually broke up, but it had nothing to do with the open relationship. Frankly we loved each other, but he was bisexual and I did not feel like I should close off that side of him. I loved him for who he was, ALL of who he was. We ended up going our separate ways because he CHEATED on me. We had threesomes, he had my consent to play with other men when I was not there, provided he told me about it. But then he went behind my back and concealed a romantic relationship with another woman. This was not "open" and I simply could not wrap my brain around the fact that the mommy to his child gave hiim permission to do WHATEVER he wanted, just keep me in the loop and talk to me, and that rule was too strict for him. Whatever, I still think that when performed openly and with communication, it can be fine as long as everybody involved knows and consents.
No, I would never go for the swinging or threesome. As for open marriages as a whole, I've known a handful of couples that have tried that, some even lasted a good 5 years or so... none of them have survived longer than that though and most have admited that the open relationship was largely at fault. One partner feeling left out, taken advantage of or taken for granted. Jealousy, guilt, etc. No thank you.. It's not for me and I honestly don't think it makes for a good recipe for a healthy happy marriage.
Todd and I are both wayyyyy too serious about being exclusive and monogamous to be interested in any of those things. We have both shared with one another that it actually makes us feel physically ill at the very mention or thought of anything like that (we both had been horribly hurt by cheaters in our past so are both extra sensitive about such things- we like that we are on the same page and that comforts both of us)
As far as an open marriage, if I wanted that type of relationship personally It wouldnt be a marriage, I would just stay single and if anything live with my favorite guy but I would never be in that type of marriage, not trying to offend those who are different than me, but to ME personally I wouldnt even consider that a "marriage".
But to each their own
YVONNE
I think people who start a "open relationship" be them just dating or married...
I feel couples who agree to do this once they have been in a relationship for 2 first,
are only consenting to this as a last ditch effort to keep a failing relationship going without having to put the real work it takes to keep a healthy relationship.
If your needing more then 1 you probly have a sex addiction or low self esteem if your only doing it to appease a spouse. Why get married?? That's not marriage that's a lifestyle.
Amen lol it's hard enough to stay emotional physically healthy connected in 1 relationship then if you have kids you have even more individual needs to consider as a whole family unit. Who the heck has time or wants to make room for an outsider! Not to mention it could bite you, curiosity killed the cat! Very well the other person might decide they can't share and take your SO away from you!
Quoting lalasha:
No not with my husband. I think I could explore with out getting attached to others but my husband is a TOTAL ROMANTIC and isn't very good at keeping love and sex apart. My husband is enough for me. Also I'm no longer willing to have bad sex. I've got one trained I don't want to train anyone else.
Its always gotta be about him. kinda long
- 1stTimeMom1982
on Jan. 26, 2013 at 9:58 AM