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Poll

Question: Is porn okay?

Options:

Totally fine whenever

Only okay if I am there

Only okay if we aren't together

Never okay

Other, there is always other


Only group members can vote in this poll.

Total Votes: 133

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What are your thoughts on it?

I'm sure this has been before. I know it's a hot topic. 

I'll put a poll up. 


Thanks everyone who voted. I've wanted to do a poll for awhile and get some decent numbers. I appreciate all the input!

by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 1:27 PM
Replies (31-40):
USMCwife0530
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:09 AM
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Not ok with it at all. Shouldn't we (wives, gf's) be enough?
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supermomz25
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:12 AM

I have no problem with porn and I love to watch it with my husband.

pittawadda
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:29 AM

I am assuming by your SN that your SO is military? So even during a long deployment? It's an honest question. I know some wives are against it then too and rather send special things to their SO themselves. 

It seems that most people aren't stating that our SO are going all out for porn all the time. It's just that the occasional porn is fine as long as the sex life is okay. But again it really is a big difference of opinion and I do like hearing other opinions on the topic. I never really knew it was a hot topic.

I understand it is a big deal if it comes before the wife, I am not talking about that. I am talking about if you are apart or just if you aren't in the mood or he isn't up for it (ha no pun intended). I am talking about a healthy sex life. If porn is coming before the spouse then of course there is an issue and I can see where if that has happen to someone in the past or they know it could become an issue then of course it shouldn't be in the marriage. 

I guess I am surprised when people say they are against it. But I am also not just talking about men. I mean what about women? Is it okay for them to look at something? To read books? Is it only okay to read books?

Sorry for the tangent and quoting you, this is for everyone too!

Quoting USMCwife0530:

Not ok with it at all. Shouldn't we (wives, gf's) be enough?



USMCwife0530
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:41 AM
I send him naughty pics of me so there's no reason for porn. He knows this and I expect him to respect my wishes. If he chooses to watch porn (knowing that I won't find out) then I would sincerely hope his conscience would get the best of him. I do not care to look at naked guys.


Quoting pittawadda:

I am assuming by your SN that your SO is military? So even during a long deployment? It's an honest question. I know some wives are against it then too and rather send special things to their SO themselves. 

It seems that most people aren't stating that our SO are going all out for porn all the time. It's just that the occasional porn is fine as long as the sex life is okay. But again it really is a big difference of opinion and I do like hearing other opinions on the topic. I never really knew it was a hot topic.

I understand it is a big deal if it comes before the wife, I am not talking about that. I am talking about if you are apart or just if you aren't in the mood or he isn't up for it (ha no pun intended). I am talking about a healthy sex life. If porn is coming before the spouse then of course there is an issue and I can see where if that has happen to someone in the past or they know it could become an issue then of course it shouldn't be in the marriage. 

I guess I am surprised when people say they are against it. But I am also not just talking about men. I mean what about women? Is it okay for them to look at something? To read books? Is it only okay to read books?

Sorry for the tangent and quoting you, this is for everyone too!


Quoting USMCwife0530:

Not ok with it at all. Shouldn't we (wives, gf's) be enough?





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faerie75
by Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:45 AM
I look at Hott men ^shrug^ I don't WANT them but I can appreciate a look.

Quoting USMCwife0530:

Not ok with it at all. Shouldn't we (wives, gf's) be enough?
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pittawadda
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:47 AM
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Thanks for your reply. This is what I wonder and I'm glad you said that. 

I have had a response before where someone said they don't send them but don't want their SO to look at porn. I asked what do you want them to do then? I mean, it's long time! I understand if it's only a few weeks but a year!

Not gonna lie, for a minute I thought you said you didn't care if HE looked at naked men! HA. Then I realized I misread.

Quoting USMCwife0530:

I send him naughty pics of me so there's no reason for porn. He knows this and I expect him to respect my wishes. If he chooses to watch porn (knowing that I won't find out) then I would sincerely hope his conscience would get the best of him. I do not care to look at naked guys.


Quoting pittawadda:

I am assuming by your SN that your SO is military? So even during a long deployment? It's an honest question. I know some wives are against it then too and rather send special things to their SO themselves. 

It seems that most people aren't stating that our SO are going all out for porn all the time. It's just that the occasional porn is fine as long as the sex life is okay. But again it really is a big difference of opinion and I do like hearing other opinions on the topic. I never really knew it was a hot topic.

I understand it is a big deal if it comes before the wife, I am not talking about that. I am talking about if you are apart or just if you aren't in the mood or he isn't up for it (ha no pun intended). I am talking about a healthy sex life. If porn is coming before the spouse then of course there is an issue and I can see where if that has happen to someone in the past or they know it could become an issue then of course it shouldn't be in the marriage. 

I guess I am surprised when people say they are against it. But I am also not just talking about men. I mean what about women? Is it okay for them to look at something? To read books? Is it only okay to read books?

Sorry for the tangent and quoting you, this is for everyone too!


Quoting USMCwife0530:

Not ok with it at all. Shouldn't we (wives, gf's) be enough?







Gina1109
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:50 AM
This!

We've agreed that as long as he chooses me over porn then its okay.


Quoting jellybeanjean:

It would bug me if he chose to look at porn instead of bone me. Unless I already said no..then I don't really care.

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pittymama
by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:50 AM

DH watched porn while we were apart for 4 weeks (the only time we've been apart). for some reason, it didn't offend me. i always thought it would piss me off if i knew he watched it but once he told me it made me giggle and i sorta poked fun at him :)

pittymama
by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:51 AM

i should add that he never told me the women in the porn were "sexy" or "hot" or told me any details and i probably wouldn't want to know lol

cali_angel_girl
by Amy :) on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:39 AM

It's never okay in our house.

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