What are your thoughts on it?
I'm sure this has been before. I know it's a hot topic.
I'll put a poll up.
Thanks everyone who voted. I've wanted to do a poll for awhile and get some decent numbers. I appreciate all the input!
I would prefer porn to him cheating. I can't say I'm happy about it since I'm always horny myself, but we aren't always physically capable of sex together. If I'm not available, it's fine, but I don't want him chosing porn over real sex with me or paying for it either. With how much free porn there is out there, I can't see any reason he would need to pay outside a specific desire that he can't find for free.
The Effects on Relationships
Pornography shapes attitudes and influences behavior. Its messages are enticing primarily because they are fantasy and thus presented as more exciting than the real thing“Individuals using pornography set themselves up for unrealistic expectations leading to damaged relationships,” notes one report.
Pornography can destroy trust and openness, essential qualities in a marriage. Because it is primarily viewed in secret, pornography use often leads to deception and lying. Mates feel betrayed. They do not understand why their marriage partner no longer finds them desirable.
Quoting divinemomma:The Effects on Relationships
Pornography shapes attitudes and influences behavior. Its messages are enticing primarily because they are fantasy and thus presented as more exciting than the real thing“Individuals using pornography set themselves up for unrealistic expectations leading to damaged relationships,” notes one report.
Pornography especially exploits women and children. It demeans them and robs them of their dignity and rights. One who uses pornography participates in and supports that exploitation. “No matter how good a . . . man thinks he is,” point out researchers Steven Hill and Nina Silver, “his tacit approval of pornography makes him at best [insensitive], at worst misogynistic, toward the very person he professes to care about.”Pornography can destroy trust and openness, essential qualities in a marriage. Because it is primarily viewed in secret, pornography use often leads to deception and lying. Mates feel betrayed. They do not understand why their marriage partner no longer finds them desirable.
Context, they argue, is more important than content. In the University of Arkansas study, for example, both men and women who reported using sexual media as part of love-making had higher relationship satisfaction than those who used it solo. University of Denver researchers recently found that couples who exclusively viewed pornography together were more sexually satisfied and dedicated to each other than those who viewed it separately.
Read more at Men's Health: http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/porn-debate?fullpage=true#ixzz2JaHqHKV2
That's awesome! See that's where it would be a problem for me. I put whenever because we haven't had any issues.
As I have said before, I can totaally see if there have been ANY issues in th past or ever before then of course it would be a different situation.
I'm glad it got resoloved!
Quoting LveMy2K1dS:
I put other because a little bit every once in a while would be ok, hell i've done it, but my SO was looking so much it was causing him to not be physically able to have sex with me. He wanted to so bad but his brain was so rotted out from the porn that he's looked at for years before me and after me. It was putting a huge strain on our relationship so he gave it up and I'm proud to say that since he gave it up we have had no problem in our sex life and we are closer than ever :)
I have no problems with it. But I'm almost 25 weeks pregnant and don't have the sex drive I did before.... It sucks but watching porn keeps him from getting too depressed about it.
When you met your dh/so?
- pittawadda
on Jan. 29, 2013 at 1:27 PM