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Poll

Question: Is porn okay?

Options:

Totally fine whenever

Only okay if I am there

Only okay if we aren't together

Never okay

Other, there is always other


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Total Votes: 133

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What are your thoughts on it?

I'm sure this has been before. I know it's a hot topic. 

I'll put a poll up. 


Thanks everyone who voted. I've wanted to do a poll for awhile and get some decent numbers. I appreciate all the input!

by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 1:27 PM
Replies (51-60):
gdsTX
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:08 PM

I would prefer porn to him cheating. I can't say I'm happy about it since I'm always horny myself, but we aren't always physically capable of sex together. If I'm not available, it's fine, but I don't want him chosing porn over real sex with me or paying for it either. With how much free porn there is out there, I can't see any reason he would need to pay outside a specific desire that he can't find for free.

Alwayscheerful
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:16 PM
For the past seven years, I disagree with porn, but this period.... I recommend porn to all those who are sexually starved, it's better than adultery!
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sommerrae
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 3:32 PM


My exact thoughts. It doesnt bother me as long as our sex life is good. 

Quoting thecoffeefairy:

Porn is great as long as our sex life is good. If my needs take a back seat to masturbation, there is a problem.



divinemomma
by Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 1:30 PM
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The Effects on Relationships

Pornography shapes attitudes and influences behavior. Its messages are enticing primarily because they are fantasy and thus presented as more exciting than the real thing“Individuals using pornography set themselves up for unrealistic expectations leading to damaged relationships,” notes one report.

Pornography can destroy trust and openness, essential qualities in a marriage. Because it is primarily viewed in secret, pornography use often leads to deception and lying. Mates feel betrayed. They do not understand why their marriage partner no longer finds them desirable.

Pornography especially exploits women and children. It demeans them and robs them of their dignity and rights. One who uses pornography participates in and supports that exploitation. “No matter how good a . . . man thinks he is,” point out researchers Steven Hill and Nina Silver, “his tacit approval of pornography makes him at best [insensitive], at worst misogynistic, toward the very person he professes to care about.”
pittawadda
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:40 PM
Please quote your source. I am all for showing studies but I can show you articles all day long that go on both sides here.


Quoting divinemomma:

The Effects on Relationships

Pornography shapes attitudes and influences behavior. Its messages are enticing primarily because they are fantasy and thus presented as more exciting than the real thing“Individuals using pornography set themselves up for unrealistic expectations leading to damaged relationships,” notes one report.

Pornography can destroy trust and openness, essential qualities in a marriage. Because it is primarily viewed in secret, pornography use often leads to deception and lying. Mates feel betrayed. They do not understand why their marriage partner no longer finds them desirable.

Pornography especially exploits women and children. It demeans them and robs them of their dignity and rights. One who uses pornography participates in and supports that exploitation. “No matter how good a . . . man thinks he is,” point out researchers Steven Hill and Nina Silver, “his tacit approval of pornography makes him at best [insensitive], at worst misogynistic, toward the very person he professes to care about.”

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pittawadda
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:46 PM

Context, they argue, is more important than content. In the University of Arkansas study, for example, both men and women who reported using sexual media as part of love-making had higher relationship satisfaction than those who used it solo. University of Denver researchers recently found that couples who exclusively viewed pornography together were more sexually satisfied and dedicated to each other than those who viewed it separately.

Read more at Men's Health: http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/porn-debate?fullpage=true#ixzz2JaHqHKV2

LveMy2K1dS
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 2:57 PM
I put other because a little bit every once in a while would be ok, hell i've done it, but my SO was looking so much it was causing him to not be physically able to have sex with me. He wanted to so bad but his brain was so rotted out from the porn that he's looked at for years before me and after me. It was putting a huge strain on our relationship so he gave it up and I'm proud to say that since he gave it up we have had no problem in our sex life and we are closer than ever :)
pittawadda
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 3:01 PM

That's awesome! See that's where it would be a problem for me. I put whenever because we haven't had any issues. 

As I have said before, I can totaally see if there have been ANY issues in th past or ever before then of course it would be a different situation. 

I'm glad it got resoloved!


Quoting LveMy2K1dS:

I put other because a little bit every once in a while would be ok, hell i've done it, but my SO was looking so much it was causing him to not be physically able to have sex with me. He wanted to so bad but his brain was so rotted out from the porn that he's looked at for years before me and after me. It was putting a huge strain on our relationship so he gave it up and I'm proud to say that since he gave it up we have had no problem in our sex life and we are closer than ever :)



saucymama519
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 3:04 PM

I have no problems with it. But I'm almost 25 weeks pregnant and don't have the sex drive I did before.... It sucks but watching porn keeps him from getting too depressed about it.

Surprise_Baby00
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 4:54 PM

Fine, as long as it doesn't have an effect on our marriage. 

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