our first fight as husband and wife *update*

[DKk0531]

Dh is a firefighter. Well today i found out at his new station he didnt put me as emergency contact, he put his mom. Yes this upsets me because i know her, if something were to happen to dh (God forbid) she wouldnt call me or tell me. I told him it upset me and he said he would change it. But im still mad and upset that he would put her instead of his wife. Am i wrong? In my eyes a spouse should be emergency contact not a mother or father after a wedding. When we werent married i didnt really care if he put her as emergency contact on anything. What do you ladies think about this? Am i being whiny and competely wrong?

Update* dh changed his emergency contact. He changed it to me primary, his mom secondary. He said he was just used to putting her on everything and he wasent thinking how important it is that he put someone that answers their phone from unknown numbers. He knows now that not just as his wife im a better choice but because his mom is a teacher and does not answer her phone or texts untill about 5 pm and works in a different town then where he works and it wouldnt be reasonable for her to be somewhere in a quick time limit. Thanks everyone for your advice

[shaunaleigh418]

No... I'd be upset too. That's weird that he would put his mom.

[Ilovemyboys0321]

I put my dad... I put who I know would answer a call from a random # & be able to respond.

[polkaspots]

In an emergency would you be able to rush to him? I only ask because I don't drive so in an emergency situation, I would get called and then I would have to call someone else, most likely his parents. But you're right. It should be you.
I put my dad as my emergency on my medical stuff because my husband always comes with me to the doctor.

[C.Fleury]

I totally agree, I'd be hurt if my husband out someone other than myself

[DKk0531]

How did your dh/so feel about that? See his mom is a teacher, she doesnt answer texts or calls untill 4 or 5 at night. Im a sahm, i answer all calls and all texts unless its from a 417 area code but thats not anywhere near us lol

Quoting Ilovemyboys0321:

I put my dad... I put who I know would answer a call from a random # & be able to respond.

[Mrsfarr]

My husband uses his grandfather for the same reason.

It doesn't bother me (nor should it in my mind) because we're usually together when we go anywhere and if I got the call, I know I would be too panicked to really do much of anything.

Quoting Ilovemyboys0321:

I put my dad... I put who I know would answer a call from a random # & be able to respond.

[DKk0531]

Yes i would. I have my own car and i live maybe 15 mins from the station and about 2 mins from the closest hospital. His mom works about an hr from the station. She wouldnt be able to rush. I would.

Quoting polkaspots:

In an emergency would you be able to rush to him? I only ask because I don't drive so in an emergency situation, I would get called and then I would have to call someone else, most likely his parents. But you're right. It should be you.

I put my dad as my emergency on my medical stuff because my husband always comes with me to the doctor.

[Ilovemyboys0321]

He never questioned it. He knows I would pick someone that was the best choice. He has my dad listed as well.
I feel like he most likely wasn't doing it to be mean. His mom prob has always been his ER contact & he didn't think anything of it

Quoting DKk0531:

How did your dh/so feel about that? See his mom is a teacher, she doesnt answer texts or calls untill 4 or 5 at night. Im a sahm, i answer all calls and all texts unless its from a 417 area code but thats not anywhere near us lol

Quoting Ilovemyboys0321:

I put my dad... I put who I know would answer a call from a random # & be able to respond.

[AnGLInterrupted]

I think you have valid concerns..  but the best piece of advice I can give you is to PICK AND CHOOSE your battles.  If it's not worth a knock down, drag out..  possible end of marriage over..  then it's not worth fighting over.  KWIM?

Good luck.

[pittymama]

i'd be feeling hurt but when asked for ICE person i give 3. him, my dad AND mom. even if it doesn't ask for 3. i don't think anyone should only have one ICE person because anything could prevent ONE person from being there when needed.