Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Love & Marriage Love & Marriage

our first fight as husband and wife *update*

Posted by   + Show Post
Dh is a firefighter. Well today i found out at his new station he didnt put me as emergency contact, he put his mom. Yes this upsets me because i know her, if something were to happen to dh (God forbid) she wouldnt call me or tell me. I told him it upset me and he said he would change it. But im still mad and upset that he would put her instead of his wife. Am i wrong? In my eyes a spouse should be emergency contact not a mother or father after a wedding. When we werent married i didnt really care if he put her as emergency contact on anything. What do you ladies think about this? Am i being whiny and competely wrong?

Update* dh changed his emergency contact. He changed it to me primary, his mom secondary. He said he was just used to putting her on everything and he wasent thinking how important it is that he put someone that answers their phone from unknown numbers. He knows now that not just as his wife im a better choice but because his mom is a teacher and does not answer her phone or texts untill about 5 pm and works in a different town then where he works and it wouldnt be reasonable for her to be somewhere in a quick time limit. Thanks everyone for your advice
Posted on the NEW CafeMom Mobile
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:21 PM
Replies (21-30):
boshs1andonly
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 10:12 AM

Good point. Dh doesn't answer numbers he doesn't know, which would be the only reason I wouldn't put him. 

Quoting Ilovemyboys0321:

I put my dad... I put who I know would answer a call from a random # & be able to respond.


Due9
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:05 PM

You are right. Did he have her on their before you were married? Why do you think his mom wouldn't call you if something happened?

As long as he is willing to change it, then I would let it go.

AmberLee24
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:06 PM

I think if it hurts your feelings tell him and let it go. Also my husband sometimes does things like this out of habit.

DKk0531
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:20 PM
He just graduated the fire academy and had her as his emergency contact. But he just got hired at this station jan 3,rd and we had already been married for two weeks when he got hired. So in my eyes i should have been on there and not her. She doesnt like me and wouldnt call me. Shes told me before thay she should always be the first phonecall and if she didnt feel like calling me then she wouldnt. She thinks that she needs to be number one in his life and disagree.


Quoting Due9:

You are right. Did he have her on their before you were married? Why do you think his mom wouldn't call you if something happened?

As long as he is willing to change it, then I would let it go.


Posted on the NEW CafeMom Mobile
AimSnapHolz
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:28 PM

My SO's emergency contact is his mom, and most likely will be for quite a long time. It doesn't bother me, for several reasons. She knows him better than I do, and knows his medical history better than me. We both know what his wishes would be in case of something horrible happening, so I don't think she would go against that. And she's better equipped to handle decisions in an emergency than I am - for one, I don't drive, and secondly, I would be panicking and puking and screaming and stuff. She'd remain calm.

But, I think this situation is different from yours.

LadyBugMom09
by Bronze Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:29 PM
He can have two emergency contacts, can't he?? He can put you both.
Posted on the NEW CafeMom Mobile
beaugrl0824
by Bronze Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:32 PM
1 mom liked this
I always have my mom as my emergency contact because she is always available and she can contact who ever else is needed.

I've been with Dh for 9 years and been married for almost 4.
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
veganistic
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 12:37 PM
I put my mom. He isn't nearly as reachable or reliable as she is.

Quoting Ilovemyboys0321:

I put my dad... I put who I know would answer a call from a random # & be able to respond.
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
emarin77
by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2013 at 1:10 PM

I would be jealous but I would also ask my husband why he picked my mother other than me.  Maybe there is a real reason for it.

Due9
by on Jan. 30, 2013 at 1:31 PM

Yeah, this would make me mad. But at least he's changing it.

Quoting DKk0531:

He just graduated the fire academy and had her as his emergency contact. But he just got hired at this station jan 3,rd and we had already been married for two weeks when he got hired. So in my eyes i should have been on there and not her. She doesnt like me and wouldnt call me. Shes told me before thay she should always be the first phonecall and if she didnt feel like calling me then she wouldnt. She thinks that she needs to be number one in his life and disagree.


Quoting Due9:

You are right. Did he have her on their before you were married? Why do you think his mom wouldn't call you if something happened?

As long as he is willing to change it, then I would let it go.



juggling

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

close Join now to connect to
other members!
Connect with Facebook or Sign Up Using Email

Already Joined? LOG IN