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*Update* My anxiety is tgrough the roof and Im sure Im headed for a mental breakdown. *Warning: Adult language*

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I just feel like an emotional wreck right now. So I sent this message to hubby via fb...

Hey babe. I had a question and I want you to know Im not trying to start an argument or anything. But why is it a problem that I want to go out with Kristy and Sam tonight? The times I've brought it up you get a nasty attitude about it. You got the weekend away last weekend and have played hockey a lot while I've stayed home with the kids. I think it's only fair that I get to go have fun with the girls like you get to with the guys. I need a break terribly bad. Im starting to feel like Im headed for a mental breakdown.
Like I said Im not saying this because Im wanting to fight or anything, just wondering...
I love you. Just think about maybe letting me go out with the girls sometime. I need it.

He calls me just a bit ago and says, "So I saw your shit on Facebook. You act like Im such a shitty husband. You go ahead and go out! That's fine. Not sure how you're going to afford it but go ahead!". Then he hung up. What am I doing wrong?? My friend asked me to come to her house for a girls night. It wouldn't cost anything. Why does he get so mad when I try to tell him how I feel. Now our day and night is ruined because I opened my big mouth.




I need a break so fucking bad. I have not had a break from my children since a week ago and it was for three hours. Im envious of hubby because since he plays hockey he is gone 4-5 evenings a week, leaving the house around 7 and not coming home till around 11:39pm. He was gone all weekend last weekend for a tourney. I begged my fil to watch the kids for a few hours last Friday. I've been invited to go out with some girlfriends tonight and everytime I bring it up, hubby gets a nasty attitude about it. Then last night while he was playing hockey I had a HORRIBLE night with the kids. I txtd him and told him I was going out tonight. He txtd me back later saying, "okay??". Then when he gets home he says that he has plans for us and he will talk to his dad about watching the kids. I guess there is something called broom hockey for couples tonight. That's cool. I love spending time with him but doesn't he understand that just like he has his time with the guys I need time with my girls. I had so much fun last Friday. I need some friends really bad. My life consists of spending almost every waking moment woth my kids and hubby. I love my family life but Im starting to lose my mind slowly but surely. And it doesn't seem like anyone understands. I feel like going in my room and crying my eyes out right now. My kids are constantly fighting and tattling on each other.
Sorry this is so long but I need to vent. Im so unhappy at this moment.

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by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 11:18 AM
Replies (61-70):
SuperMom2433
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:39 PM
Im in my room bawling my eyes out. Im seriously mentally worn out. I've had my fill. He called back again and apologized just to continually bitch me out for the message I sent him. Im over this fighting shit. His dad is watching the kids. Im not going out. I can't handle this shit anymore. I feel stupid for ever mentioning anything.


Quoting CrazyLife1996:

At least he is chilling out a little but still he needs to stop acting like a spoiled child.



Have fun tonight you deserve a break.



Tomorrow though be extra touchy and Flirty. When he gives you that funny look of what has gotten into you. Say Hun you have no idea how good it felt just to get out for few hours. Now I'm recharged and relaxed.



This should help him realize you need girl time every now and then too.




Quoting SuperMom2433:

He ended up calling me back and told me that his dad is watching the kids tonight and I should be ready to go out because he doesn't want to see me. Meaning he wants me to go out and have fun. But hes still being a butt.






Quoting CrazyLife1996:

I would just be ready to go when he gets off work. When he walls in the door say how was your day babe? I'm on my way over to so and so's. I will be home at such and such a time. I have my phone love you and walk out.







You need a break and he needs to stop acting like a spoiled child.








Quoting SuperMom2433:

Could really use someone to talk to right now.




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ReadWriteLuv
by Casey on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:39 PM
Didn't he get pissed the last time you went over to a friends house a week or two ago because you came home completely trashed and puked? Maybe he is worried that will happen again?
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Amber5151
by Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:39 PM
I agree, if my SO was hanging out with the boys every week while I was sitting at home I would be pissed


Quoting SuperMom2433:

True. However, I didn't post for a comparison or people feeling sorry for me. Just a vent on my situation. :).

With that said, I dont feel that it's fair for my husband to get so many nights and so much time for himself. I feel it should be equal.




Quoting Amber5151:

I hope you get what you need. I have to say though, I'm kind of jealous, I haven't had a kid free girls night out in three years, you had one a week ago. It's all about perspective


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SuperMom2433
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:40 PM
Im in my room bawling my eyes out. Im seriously mentally worn out. I've had my fill. He called back again and apologized just to continually bitch me out for the message I sent him. Im over this fighting shit. His dad is watching the kids. Im not going out. I can't handle this shit anymore. I feel stupid for ever mentioning anything.


Quoting CrazyLife1996:

At least he is chilling out a little but still he needs to stop acting like a spoiled child.



Have fun tonight you deserve a break.



Tomorrow though be extra touchy and Flirty. When he gives you that funny look of what has gotten into you. Say Hun you have no idea how good it felt just to get out for few hours. Now I'm recharged and relaxed.



This should help him realize you need girl time every now and then too.




Quoting SuperMom2433:

He ended up calling me back and told me that his dad is watching the kids tonight and I should be ready to go out because he doesn't want to see me. Meaning he wants me to go out and have fun. But hes still being a butt.






Quoting CrazyLife1996:

I would just be ready to go when he gets off work. When he walls in the door say how was your day babe? I'm on my way over to so and so's. I will be home at such and such a time. I have my phone love you and walk out.







You need a break and he needs to stop acting like a spoiled child.








Quoting SuperMom2433:

Could really use someone to talk to right now.




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SuperMom2433
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:41 PM
Yeah, he knows I learned my lesson there. I dont want to drink anyway. He knows that.


Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

Didn't he get pissed the last time you went over to a friends house a week or two ago because you came home completely trashed and puked? Maybe he is worried that will happen again?

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furbabymum
by Gold Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:45 PM

 oh jees I think I'm too much of an alpha female to be reading this. You express your needs, he threatens to cut you off financially and you blame yourself?????????????????????

Woman, You married an asshole bully and you are his doormat.

CrazyLife1996
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:47 PM
Screw him! Go out you need the mental break. Don't let him dictate your entire life like this.

Truthfully what do you have to feel bad about? Absolutely nothing! Everyone needs time for themselves including a Stay-at-home-wife/mother dispite popular belief.

Trust me go out and don't think about how big of an ass he is being. He is just continuing to behave this way to keep you from going out. You will feel 100% better so you can be the mom you always strive to be.




Quoting SuperMom2433:

Im in my room bawling my eyes out. Im seriously mentally worn out. I've had my fill. He called back again and apologized just to continually bitch me out for the message I sent him. Im over this fighting shit. His dad is watching the kids. Im not going out. I can't handle this shit anymore. I feel stupid for ever mentioning anything.




Quoting CrazyLife1996:

At least he is chilling out a little but still he needs to stop acting like a spoiled child.





Have fun tonight you deserve a break.





Tomorrow though be extra touchy and Flirty. When he gives you that funny look of what has gotten into you. Say Hun you have no idea how good it felt just to get out for few hours. Now I'm recharged and relaxed.





This should help him realize you need girl time every now and then too.






Quoting SuperMom2433:

He ended up calling me back and told me that his dad is watching the kids tonight and I should be ready to go out because he doesn't want to see me. Meaning he wants me to go out and have fun. But hes still being a butt.








Quoting CrazyLife1996:

I would just be ready to go when he gets off work. When he walls in the door say how was your day babe? I'm on my way over to so and so's. I will be home at such and such a time. I have my phone love you and walk out.









You need a break and he needs to stop acting like a spoiled child.










Quoting SuperMom2433:

Could really use someone to talk to right now.





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Amber5151
by Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:48 PM
For the last year I have been nursing a baby who refuses bottles and my SO works a lot so I don't think it's fair for me to go out and leave him with a screaming baby after he works those hours. For 7 months before that I was pregnant and on bed rest off and on the entire time, before that I was working a bunch. Pretty much when we do get a sitter it's for us to go out together not separate


Quoting TommyAbby:

Why?




Quoting Amber5151:

I hope you get what you need. I have to say though, I'm kind of jealous, I haven't had a kid free girls night out in three years, you had one a week ago. It's all about perspective





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SuperMom2433
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:48 PM
We are broke at the moment. He didn't threaten to cut me off financially. He was stating something that I was already aware of.


Quoting furbabymum:

 oh jees I think I'm too much of an alpha female to be reading this. You express your needs, he threatens to cut you off financially and you blame yourself?????????????????????


Woman, You married an asshole bully and you are his doormat.


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catrig
by Bronze Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:49 PM

You need to stand up for yourself.  

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