I am new to this site and I am desperately seeking advice! I have a 4 year old from a previous relationship and a brand new boy with my current boyfriend. Before becoming pregnant, my boyfriend and I had a wonderful sex life. We were making love at least 4-5 times a week and I felt very satisfied. Further, I had never really felt as secure with sex as I had with him. Once I became pregnant however, everything seemed to change. In all I think we had sex maybe 5 times during my pregnancy. He said that he wasnt very attracted to a big belly. I understand guys are visual creatures so I understand where this came from, though it was still hurtful. (I felt like he was the one who did this! Also I have heard that some men actually become MORE attracted to their partners during pregnancy) I though " Well I never had this problem with my older son's father" I accepted this and moved on figuring everything would be fine after the birth. Well fast forward 6 weeks later. I have the green light from my gyno and I have been very excited to resume an active sex-life. My birth was probably one of the easiest births on the planet. I did not tear and pushed the kid out in around 7 minutes (please dont hate! My first one was a lot harder!). So anyways, a couple days ago (before I got on birth control) my boyfriend and I were laying in bed and I told him how excited I was to be able to have sex with him again. He seemed not too enthused by the conversation and actually told me "Well I hope when I put it in it isnt like "is it in yet?" Yes...he actually said this to me! I just gave birth to his child for crap's sake! I told him that it would not be like that. He then had the nerve to ask if I have tested things out just to check. I told him no but I have had a child before and although things were not exactly pre-baby tight, that it would be just fine. I coult not beleive he would say something this insensitive. I mean, ok, I get it...he is 39 and this is his first child, of course he wont know some things about having a baby, but come on! From my perspective, why the hell would you ever say thing to the woman you love and who just had your child???? I mean thinking it is one thing but to say it? REALLY? My issue is that during the pregnancy the fact that he was not attracted to me really hit my confidence hard. (he says it is me being too sensitive). Now, the fact that he is questioning my ability to [pleasure him at all is really hurting me. I dont know what to do! I dont even feel like having sex with him anymore. Please help!