I feel like my husband is having an emotional affair
My husband has an online friend that lives in texas a female that he has chatted to off and on over the past 9 years. Only more recently within the past year he has been talking to her more and more. I confronted him about it before saying that he was spending too much time chatting with her and staying up way too late after we had all gone to bed then complining about being tired in the am and wanting to sleep a good portion of the day away. He said he messaged her and asked her to stop texting him and to limit their chatting.
I had thought he hd followed through and kept his word only to find out that he had added her on fb again and left the message page open where she replied that she had to be sneaky about it and delete the email he had sent her from her current boyfriend. Im completely blown away since my husband doesnt think that there is anything wrong with this! He sneaks around texts her and then deletes messages, phone logs on his phone, emails and more. I confronted him about it again and all he could say was ok I deleted he from fb.
How do I get him to see that this kind of behavior is sabotaging our marriage and overall unhealthy. We have 2 children to think about and another one on the way. I asked him why she was so worth throwing away his family and marriage since they have never met before and he said she wasnt but couldnt give me a reason why he is STILL talking to her.
Ill also mention I emailed her to tell her that if she really "cared" that she would cease communication with him if for nothing else then respecting our children and their ability to live with a complete family. No reply back.