How often do you and your spouse need to have sex?

That would be nice, with my son, against my wishes, they gave me one, which I suspect is why I tore with my daughter, because the scar tissue from the first unwanted episiotomy wouldn't stretch. So at this point, I doubt I can avoid another one. It's okay, I can deal, won't be the first time. Though admittedly, with my ex, not getting sex for me was not a big deal, with my DH now that is a different story. Isn't it funny how with one person you hate sex & then with another you want it all the time? And here I had been told my sex drive was low, nope, just with the ex. LOL!
Quoting Kaybean:
Yes, lol. I suggest researching ways to avoid an Episiotomy. That's what kept us from sex for 2 weeks. Next time I have a baby, I will do everything in my power to avoid needing stitches. They say to wait 6 weeks and we did it at 2 weeks anyway. Perineal massage with oils I've read can lessen the need to be cut :)
Quoting KyrinM:I bet, we are TTC right now, so we will eventually find out about that too, but I imagine that time after baby is born will be tough.
Quoting Kaybean:
The longest we've ever gone was 2 weeks after my youngest was born because I had stitches. We waited 2 long weeks and went for it when I finally felt healed enough. Those 2 weeks sucked! LOL.
Quoting KyrinM:If we don't get to for more than 2 days, we start plotting. LOL! Seriously, I think the longest we have gone is 4 days, & we were miserable.

I'm happy with 3 times a week. 1 time a week makes me feel unattractive.

not often. the past few months has been hard on us. we have an amazing sex life when it's there but lately it's been 1-2x a month. not normal for us.
- Kaybean
on Feb. 4, 2013 at 7:00 PM