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FWB with a married man! Sexual content be aware.

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 I kinda have a sitaution right now that I am really struggling with. My husband and I are happily married. He is awesome in the bedroom and I love him with all my heart. We have a child together and for that and many other reasons I would never ever leave him for another man. I've had a situation come up where a friend from many years ago has expressed an interest in me and I am fond of him.  Problem lies in the fact that he is married and I happen to be friends with his wife and children. He claims that he is happily married too, but something tells me that that is not the case. I've explained to him that I am not a home wrecker and I will never and have no interest in leaving my husband for him. I want this to be purely a sex no strings attached arrangement. Can this be possible with a married man? I am super afraid that he might leave his wife and confess that he wants to be with me and I just can't have this happen. I care for his wife to much to have that happen. Am I playing with fire? I am super confused and would like some advice. I kinda want him to tell me he was just playing around and go back home to his wife where he belongs and maybe just keep this as a friends situation. We have been texting some pretty explicit stuff to each other, but no plans to really hook-up in person as he knows I have family obligations ans so does he. HELP! We have an OPEN MARRIAGE.

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:09 PM
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anotherandree
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:18 PM
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I have a friend that has an open marriage so I kinda get how that works from your perspective.  However, if your friend does not, this can/will end badly for them, regardless.  If they also have an open relationship and you are friends (not even good friends), you should be able to shoot her a text or email just to confirm that this is okay with all parties involved.  If they don't have an open relationship, keep clear.

babygirl4326
by Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:19 PM

BUMP!

disnchntdwife
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:19 PM
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With friends like you....what woman would need an enemy??? Keep your legs closed and let him keep his Dick in his pants!!! You need therapy if you think you care for her but are willing to be a home wrecker just so you can have sex with her husband. Get help and stay on the program!!!
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amylovesnick07
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:20 PM
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What is up with crazy posts today??? Anywho, if you are happily married and your husband is a great guy then why in the hell would you even consider sleeping with guy. Not to mention you say you like his wife too much to hurt her but still considering. That makes no sense. Sounds like your husband and the "friends" wife deserve soooo much better. I really have nothing nice to say about people like you. Sorry.
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isaacsmom2013
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:20 PM

Please refrain from passing judgment. Everybody has issues to deal with. I am simple seeking advice. I am not betraying my husband he knows everything that goes on between us.

amylovesnick07
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:26 PM
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No but you don't mind hurting your friends wife. Does she know you and her husband want to have sex together?


Quoting isaacsmom2013:

Please refrain from passing judgment. Everybody has issues to deal with. I am simple seeking advice. I am not betraying my husband he knows everything that goes on between us.


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boshs1andonly
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:26 PM

if that arrangement works out for you and your husband that's your business. but does his wife know? if not then you're still in the wrong here, and you need to find someone single to be FWB with. 

Quoting isaacsmom2013:

Please refrain from passing judgment. Everybody has issues to deal with. I am simple seeking advice. I am not betraying my husband he knows everything that goes on between us.


DragonMother10
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:27 PM
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Ok, even if he does know about it and is okay with it, you are still having the consideration of betraying a friend. Just because you are in an open relationship, doesn't mean everyone else is. If I were you, I would look for couples who live the same lifestyle as you.


Quoting isaacsmom2013:

Please refrain from passing judgment. Everybody has issues to deal with. I am simple seeking advice. I am not betraying my husband he knows everything that goes on between us.


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isaacsmom2013
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:42 PM

You seem to be the only person here who gets where I am coming from. I agree with everything you said. I appreciate the honesty.

isaacsmom2013
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:45 PM
No and that is what is holding me back.
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