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FWB with a married man! Sexual content be aware.

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 I kinda have a sitaution right now that I am really struggling with. My husband and I are happily married. He is awesome in the bedroom and I love him with all my heart. We have a child together and for that and many other reasons I would never ever leave him for another man. I've had a situation come up where a friend from many years ago has expressed an interest in me and I am fond of him.  Problem lies in the fact that he is married and I happen to be friends with his wife and children. He claims that he is happily married too, but something tells me that that is not the case. I've explained to him that I am not a home wrecker and I will never and have no interest in leaving my husband for him. I want this to be purely a sex no strings attached arrangement. Can this be possible with a married man? I am super afraid that he might leave his wife and confess that he wants to be with me and I just can't have this happen. I care for his wife to much to have that happen. Am I playing with fire? I am super confused and would like some advice. I kinda want him to tell me he was just playing around and go back home to his wife where he belongs and maybe just keep this as a friends situation. We have been texting some pretty explicit stuff to each other, but no plans to really hook-up in person as he knows I have family obligations ans so does he. HELP! We have an OPEN MARRIAGE.

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:09 PM
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mama2sqgl
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:00 PM
How about you keep your pants on and he keep it in his pants. What you should be worried about is working on your OWN marriage and what is wrong with it that you would even be considering this.
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isaacsmom2013
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:02 PM

Seriously people. I obviously have concerns and wanted some input. Not to be judged and be told that I have no respect for my husband. Obviously I do other wise I would not be asking for input.

boshs1andonly
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:02 PM

She's already said her husband is okay with it, and that's their business. But what gets me is she acts like she's concerned about keeping this woman as a friend, when she was already messing around with her husband. Why is it even a question of whether or not its wrong to get involved with her friend's husband behind her back?

Quoting mama2sqgl:

How about you keep your pants on and he keep it in his pants. What you should be worried about is working on your OWN marriage and what is wrong with it that you would even be considering this.


isaacsmom2013
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:03 PM

Nothing is wrong! WE HAVE AN OPEN MARRIAGE. 

boshs1andonly
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:05 PM

But they don't! You still haven't addressed what makes it ok for you to text him with explicit messages when he doesn't have the okay from his wife. You just keep repeating that it's okay for you, like that's the only thing that matters.

Quoting isaacsmom2013:

Nothing is wrong! WE HAVE AN OPEN MARRIAGE. 


shimmifairy
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:08 PM


You and your hubs have an open marriage, but I bet your friends' marriage is not...if you don't want your life to explode, if you don't want your friends' lives to explode...just don't do it....

Quoting isaacsmom2013:

We have an open marriage. In fact my husband knows about this man.Not worried one bit about my husband leaving me. He has seen every text message this man has sent me.



isaacsmom2013
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:09 PM

Not saying that I am going to do anything. Just asking!

edelweiss23
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:09 PM
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If they don't have an open marriage(and you hear it from her lips) I would stay the fuck away and quit returning messeges from him.

He may very well have no intention of leaving her, but if you go behind her back and have sex with her husband, you could lose both your friendship with her, and him. She might up and leave him, or give him the ultimatum of never speaking to you again.

Is it worth that risk.
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isaacsmom2013
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:12 PM

So the general concensus is that this is not even remotely a good idea. I get it, but how do I tell him with hurting him that I would just like to be friends and that my friendship with him and his wife means more to me that FWB?

mama2sqgl
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:13 PM
Sorry I missed that part.
if that's the case then and this is something you truly want to do then you really should find someone else. If your questioning any part of it then its prob. something you shouldn't do. How much do you value your friendship with her? its a tangled web when its friends.
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